I don't envy my sons at all, I am thrilled that their lives are good. I would be more than happy to help with my granddaughter, and wish I saw her more often than a couple of hours visit a week, but to not be needed is a sign of the family's success and strength, which makes me feel proud of my son and amazed by his partner who is a far better mother than I was - so confident and competent and a wonderful role model for her daughter. My own mother struggled to bring me and my two brothers up, because money was tight, and she had none of the opportunities in life that came my way. Don't we all work and strive so our children can have it better and easier than we did?
I don't feel that the job market is as easy for today's young people as it was for my generation, however. My youngest, who is a trained journalist, is finding it extremely hard to find a job that he actually wants and which will accept him. Competition is fierce. I didn't have half the skills and qualifications he has, but I found a job easily in the 1970s. I feel I was lucky to be able to stay at home and raise my boys myself, not have to return to work. Many young mothers nowadays are not in this happy situation, and can't afford their homes without both parents working - they are lucky if they have willing parents and in laws to step in for childcare. Nursery for babies is very expensive. I would be very happy to mind my granddaughter, but the fact that I don't need to, they can afford the nursery, is a testament to how hard they have both worked and how successful they are. I am super proud of all my boys. I am now enjoying my leisure time, and the freedom to basically do what I like. This is one of the nicest times of my life.