AIBU to not like my name being shortened?

I have a very unusual Christian name - combination of Mum & Dad's. I am not very fond of it. My DH always calls me Liz after Skinny Liz (I was a long time ago). So, anyone new we meet assumes I am Elizabeth.

My real name is a french one and was always mispronounced at school and made to sound horrible. My aunts still make it sound as though it has loads of 'E's' in front of it. When I was 17 the new boyfriend called me by a shortened version of it and I loved it and still use it for family and friends. The long version has always been used for work and officialdom. Since moving to France, I now use the long version with the French as they pronounce it correctly. Clients are told that my name is the shortened version and friends still use it. I never liked my maiden name but it has come back to haunt me as French bureaucracy insists on using a woman's maiden name on all forms. You have the opportunity to write your 'name of usage' and the postman delivers mail to me in both names.

Also Sally...i hate it when it is shortened to Sow!

I never knew mine could be shortened until I moved away from home - was utterly horrified by the shortening too!!

It's your name! If you don't want it shortened, which I fully understand, tell your new friends that your name is Sally, not Sal and then don't answer them if they address you wrongly.

I went through school refusing to answer both teachers and fellow pupils who mispronounced my name. It was not always a popular move, especially with the adults, but it did work.

One of the few rules we had in the primary school where I worked was,
Call everyone by the name they want!

I tend not to like shortened names. There are beautiful traditional names that are usually shortened, which spoils them for me. Examples that spring to mind are Nicholas, Christopher, Benjamin and Elizabeth - rarely used in their full form.

We have Davids, Andrews and a Peter in our family. .Heaven help anyone who tries to shorten those! They wouldn’t stand for it. My sons have three-syllable names (not the ones I mention above) that are shortened by almost everyone except me.

My son and DIL rejected the name Charles for their son because they knew everyone would call him Charlie, which they didn’t like. I had rejected Charles for that son, because his middle name was going to be Philip, and we thought it sounded a bit too royal! In the end no-one’s called Charles in our family.

Yes I hate my name shortened too ! I get Kath a lot but always sign /introduce myself off as Kathryn ! I find people who's names can’t be shortened are the worst !

I really dislike my name being shortened by the majority of people, but those who do shorten it are a very dear and special set of friends, and only they can do it, as it’s a privilege nobody else gets. I always remind others in the gentlest way I can, that I prefer my full name.

Mine is never shortened but frequently changed to Caroline! A nurse once informed me, when I gently corrected her, that it didn’t matter as it was nearly the same! I like the name Caroline but it’s not my name, though I wish my mother had called me that as it would have saved me ignoring a lot of people over the years when I didn’t realise they were speaking to me!!

I think it's endearing to shorten someone's name, that's the reason I do it anyway. I prefer it when I'm called San, I like it... only family call me Sandra.

I absolutely HATE my name and it has always been shortened. All friends and family call me by the shortened form of my name, it is even on my ‘notes’ at the doctor’s. I cringe when I have to officially fill in a form. I did think about changing it by deed poll but the list of people I had to contact and the costs involved (driving license, passport etc.) seemed ridiculous so I just have to live with it. Maybe it’s something to do on my 65th birthday?

Am I the only one who doesn;t give jot what anyone calls me ? I don't even use my Christian name (are you allowed to say that anymore ?? probably not PC !!! I have known several people who share my thoughts ...best friends since school age 5 ...Mon, Vron, Mags, Mo ...Al, Mike, Pete .......we wouldn't recognise each other if we used our real names !! More to worry about in life ........don't even mind Duck, luv or pet !!

I hate my full name and try to only use the shortened version. The trouble is that the full length version is needed by officialdom. When that name is called e.g at the doctors, I feel like I’m five again, being reprimanded for some misdeed!

My full name is shortened and im only ever called by my short name since my mother died. Only one person uses my full name and I let it ride since I rarely see him.
When meeting new people I only use my short name. Its not that i dislike my full name, ìts just that for the majority of my life its never been used.

When my father-in-law met my mother-in-law he told her his name was Harry. This was fine until she went to visit his home for Sunday tea and one of his brothers was called Harry too. It turned out that his name was Hector but he disliked the name so he changed it. Most of my mother-in-law's family called him Harry for the rest of his days!

My Mum was brought up in an orphanage, long, long ago, and the Matron would not allow any girl to keep the name Sally or Sarah. She said that these were "workhouse "names!
In my Mum's class, one of the girls had been christened Sally Sarah, and she was renamed Cissie--poor kid. If anyone tried to shorten my name I just wouldn't answer to it.

My dad was called Thomas Noel (born Christmas Day!). His surname got shortened at roll call in the Royal Navy to ‘Peak’. So his navy colleagues just called him ‘Pete’ and that how he was introduced to my mum when they met. She always called him ‘Pete’. However, his family always called him ‘Noel’. And when he worked as an engineer after leaving the RN work colleagues called him ‘Tom’! .... I asked him once did he mind being called by 3 different names and he replied ‘I do t mind what I’m called as long as it’s not late for dinner!’. Loved it.

I had a boss who always dropped the Y at the end of my name, and I hated it. One day I asked him ( in the middle f the office) not to call me that. He looked t me in amazement and asked what I wanted to be called. I heard one of the guys mutter “how about **y?” (my actual name), which is of course what I told him.

DH on the other hand, has been known by his full name for years, certainly I’d never heard him called anything else, but for the last few years some people have been shortening it, and he’s even taken to using the shortened name himself in certain circumstances.

I'm a Hazel & I hate being called Haze- I'm not a flaming mist! I don't answer to it.
I have no problem with H though- I don't think many people get called by their initial unless it is an H.

I can tell how long people have been colleagues of my brother by what they call him. When he started a new job some years ago, his boss was introducing him as Jim, then asked, “ or do you insist on James?” He didn’t want to say he had always been James, so has been known as Jim in those circles for about 20 years.

I hate my name, always have done. What was worse was when I was at the hospital recently they kept calling me as my middle name and surname - which is worse! Mine are old fashioned and I haven’t heard of anyone young with them (even when I was young, I was the only one called it!)

Perfectly happy to have my name shortened by those I know, don’t care who they are, I find it friendlier

Just tell them you prefer to be addressed as Sally.

I don't particularly like my name as it is rather old fashioned. I prefer it to be shortened - but as I get older I find I am growing into it! In fact a friend's baby was recently given that name so I am beginning to like it now!