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Permanent Memorials at Roadside Accident Spots

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Greyduster Fri 27-Jul-18 11:21:15

I’m afraid I would rather not see permanent roadside memorials. We have one halfway round a walk that we do. A young man came off the road in his car at speed, crashed through two fences and down a steep embankment. There is now a permanent brick structure incorporating a seat and a place to plant flowers. I have no objections to his friends and family gathering there to commemorate him, but they tend to leave a mess behind when they do and it becomes unsightly. They obviously feel that it is someone else’s job to clear it up. I don’t know why there are not planning regulations governing the erection of these permanent memorials.

paddyann Fri 27-Jul-18 10:39:59

I suppose it might make others drive more carefully but I'm with you.I dont like them or the masses of flowers from all and sundry that appear on the streets after theres been an accident etc.
Mind you I dont buy flowers for graves either..or visit them .Once your dead your dead as far as I'm concerned and as my late mother used to say dont wait until I'm gone before you visit with flowers come while I'm alive and can enjoy your company.
I 've kind of gone with her thinking ,we had her ashes scattered at the crematorium as dads were ,they weren't her, when the light left her eyes she was gone .

NanaEm Fri 27-Jul-18 10:29:11

I’ve just driven back to Ireland from a break in Wales and England and am surprised at the number of memorials I’ve seen by the roadsides marking the deaths of accident victims. Some of these were quite elaborate granite headstones, some were wooden crosses with brass plaques. I feel so sorry for the families bereaved in this way but also feel our public roadsides are not the place for these permanent memorials. Am I being unreasonable for not agreeing with this?