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My neighbour wants to climb my tree

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ninjagran Thu 09-Aug-18 17:30:32

We noticed a miaowing at the bottom of our garden this morning. It appears a cat has got itself stuck. The tree is covered in ivy and very tall so we can't actually see the cat itself though we can definitely hear it. I've called the RSPCA and their advice is to leave it - it will come down on its own. My neighbours however are insistent on rescuing the poor thing and keep knocking on my door. They want to bring ladders through my house and into the garden and try get at it. I'm not particularly happy about this and have put them off so far. Not just because of the ladders, but I also don't know these neighbours very well (they're at the back to the side if you know what I mean) so I know one of them by sight but that's about it. I'm not being unreasonable am I?

Legs55 Sat 11-Aug-18 10:38:26

I'm a cat lover & have "owned" many through my life, I've had excellent tree climbershmm, most cats will come down of their own accord. Noise of strangers calling & trying to reach it may well cause it climb higher & possible get into trouble.

No way would I have let anyone come through my house with a ladder, if they couldn't reach the tree from their garden why expect to come into yours? As has been pointed out if they became injured on your property it would be an nightmare as they could sue & I doubt your Insurance Company would pay outconfused

In my part of Devon the Fire Brigade have rescued cats in precarious situations although they may chargegrin

harrigran Sat 11-Aug-18 10:37:14

Well said typical, if cats didn't manage to get down from trees the branches would be full of them in autumn.
Good for you ninja for standing your ground.

starbird Sat 11-Aug-18 10:35:33

I didn’t know that they built terraced houses with no back access - my son has a gate into a neighbour’s garden as do the rest of the houses in his terrace so that they can get to the end one and out, in case of fire or whatever.
In my terraced house ( which has a back access) you come into the lounge via a porch at the fryont then straight into the kitchen to get out the back - I would think twice about letting strangers through especially if it is not their cat, and in light of RSPCA advice.

How do you get your back windows cleaned without letting a ladder through?

typicallytina Sat 11-Aug-18 10:31:16

Ask the neighbours if they have ever seen a cat’s skeleton up a tree!!??!!.....a cat will always get down if it got up on it’s own and wasn’t thrown up there....which I doubt

Oldwoman70 Sat 11-Aug-18 10:29:34

If there was no other way to get to the tree I think I would have asked a neighbour who I did know to come along to "help" so I was not alone with strangers. I would also take it as an opportunity to get to know them. I hope the cat is now safely down - has anyone checked it isn't still there?

Mamar2 Sat 11-Aug-18 10:25:29

I think she was right not to let strangers in her home. Cat or no cat. Best to be safe.

judylow Sat 11-Aug-18 10:10:28

Hope it gets rescued. Personally don’t see what the problem is letting them through your house if that’s necessary as long as they are careful with the ladder.

Fran0251 Sat 11-Aug-18 09:40:43

I don't understand the fuss. The experts, the RSPCA, have been asked and given their advice. One should follow it.

Elrel Fri 10-Aug-18 19:02:47

Glad the cat is safe.
I assume the problem was that ninjagran had not been formally introduced to the new neighbours. I'm sure Jane Austen will provide guidance on how this should properly be done!

oldbatty Fri 10-Aug-18 18:37:01

isn't traipsing a great word?

annodomini Fri 10-Aug-18 18:36:23

No-one could bring a ladder long enough to reach the top of a tree through my small house as it would involve five doorways including front and back door and two corners in between. But I would explain the situation very tactfully. My neighbour has a lovely, home-loving cat and only a serious emergency would drive her up a tree.

Bluegal Fri 10-Aug-18 18:22:48

I 'get' your humour Jalima lol..... but you are right the cat will be down by now so don't fret thecatgrandma. I adore cats and I know, from experience, that they are so agile and clever they find their way.....

I think I was more erm 'surprised' at the fact the OP was more worried about people trying to help on the basis that she didn't know her neighbours well enough. Well, what BETTER opportunity to say Hi. Then again, I love meeting new people and any which way is o.k. by me!

Jalima1108 Fri 10-Aug-18 17:50:19

Don't fret thecatgrandma - I expect it's down by now, probably under its own steam.

PECS it was a family joke (something my mother always said grin), perhaps lost on this thread.

PECS Fri 10-Aug-18 17:48:14

Were the neighbours terribly drunk that they would crash through the hallway damaging paintwork? They may be used to using ladders in their day job and be very adept at manouvreing through hallways. You

thecatgrandma Fri 10-Aug-18 17:37:54

What kind of inhumane person can sit by and hear an animal in distress? For Gods sake, it would be over with in such a short time, get a life.

Jalima1108 Fri 10-Aug-18 17:35:04

The neighbours would have been traipsing through posters hall and knocking the paintwork grin

I would be more worried that the neighbour could lean the ladder against a branch which broke, then sue you for having an unsafe tree in your garden. I'd get them to sign a disclaimer first ninjagran

Jalima1108 Fri 10-Aug-18 17:33:07

muffin - no!! It could fall down and break its neck!
(you will get into trouble with certain posters)

Although if a cat is pooing in your rose beds I think turning the hose on it or chucking a bucket of water over it is permitted.

Jalima1108 Fri 10-Aug-18 17:31:41

but where's the cat now?

muffinthemoo Fri 10-Aug-18 15:40:43

Ladies, you have saved me from a potential cat related mistake in the future!!

BlueBelle Fri 10-Aug-18 15:25:47

Isn’t it funny how you can put such a different inflection on a sentence by using a negative adjective The neighbours would have been traipsing through posters hall ? but I guess they would have kindly walked through if it was the posters pet stuck somewhere
There were no harsh comments just comments of people not agreeing with your decision Ninjagran
Always preferable to be a good neighbour you never know when you might need their help
I hope the little cat has found it s way home

Bluegal Fri 10-Aug-18 15:05:50

It always makes me laugh when people post asking the question "Am I being unreasonable?" Then complain when they are told they are!

What is the point in asking the question?

I can't actually see any harsh comments other than those who feel she IS being unreasonable and pointing out that it would be a good opportunity to get acquainted with the neighbours. As Meg says, it says a lot about a person if they are unwilling to help in such circumstances. I wouldn't object and I wouldn't expect any of my neighbours to object to similar requests but it IS up to the OP what she does....but if you ask if others agree or disagree then you have to be prepared to a variety of responses - well that's how I see it anyway.

OldMeg Fri 10-Aug-18 14:53:13

That’s what I was thinking mcem

mcem Fri 10-Aug-18 14:48:19

Couldn't you see it as an opportunity to get to know your neighbours a bit better? There may come a time when offers of help or cooperation from them would benefit you.

Maggiemaybe Fri 10-Aug-18 14:25:07

Bad advice if you want to keep in with the neighbours, muffin. grin

lemongrove Fri 10-Aug-18 14:22:49

Well, it’s bad advice for the cat muffin although it would be a quick solution. grin