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Should brothels be legalised?

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trisher Tue 06-Nov-18 10:23:36

I watched "Doing Money" last night. It's the harrowing true story of a girl held and forced to have sex for money. Her testament led to the passing of the anti people traficking act. But I wonder about the men who paid for sex with her. They got off scot free. Should it be illegal for men to pay for sex, or would it be better if all brothels had to be registered and all sex workers had to be licensed? I found it very hard to understand what sort of men would pay for sex with a girl covered in bruises and afterwards rate her and give reviews on the website. Unbelievable! The most chilling thing though was when the detective said that the brothels were busiest on Thursday evenings because the wives were late night shopping so the men were free to go. The people trafficking act is great but I suspect it hasn't dealt with the problem. What would you do?

trisher Wed 07-Nov-18 10:35:25

Thanks t everyone who has commented. I think the one thing we all agree on is that the law at present isn't right and isn't doing the job it should do-that is protecting women and girls. We diverge on how best to tackle this. I do wonder. Remembering the disclosures some time ago of a woman called (I think) Cynthia who provided services to high up men, is it possible that the men in power who use such services are reluctant to make it an offence to buy sex?

maryeliza54 Wed 07-Nov-18 10:47:54

I think this is a really interesting thread - thanks for starting it trisher. Re vested interests- men in power can generally get away with anything they want to if they want to so I doubt they care about whether the law is changed or not as it won’t affect their access to ‘sexual sevices’ if they require such services. The explanation might just be sexism - mainly an issue where women suffer/are exploited in the service of or to be used as men see fit is not taken seriously. Just think how long it took to take domestic violence including rape in marriage seriously. As for coming up with a system that would work and keep women safe- would anyone on here in a million years want their dd or dgd to be a prostitute( safely or not)

Skweek1 Wed 07-Nov-18 10:50:22

I believe that there is a place for well-regulated brothels, where the girls are protected, kept healthy and where men who are unable, for whatever reason, to find their physical needs met by just finding the right wife or gf, to get help without exploitation on either side. DS has phyical and mental issues and although he is anxious to find the right girl was over 30 and still not found anyone, eventually went to the local brothel where he met a girl who he grew to like and care for, but sadly she cost him a pretty penny, which he realised, but it did hurt him. He's still looking for the girl who will love him for himself, but where can he find that young lady?

David1968 Wed 07-Nov-18 11:09:57

I agree with maddyone - that men who pay for sex should be prosecuted. Skweek1, what you write is sad, but surely there must be better ways for your DS to meet someone? I note (from a quick online search) that there seems to be a range of different groups which offer opportunities to meet socially, to people with a range of disabilities.

trisher Wed 07-Nov-18 11:22:58

stella1949 I think it's interesting that there are legalised brothels in Australia. Do you know anything about people trafficking in your country and how this has been affected?

inishowen Wed 07-Nov-18 11:40:49

I haven't managed to watch that programme. When the pimp said he was going to teach her a lesson I turned it off. So harrowing.

grandtanteJE65 Wed 07-Nov-18 11:59:23

The arguments for legalising brothels are, as far as I know, that it makes it easier for the madam to call the police if a client becomes obstreperous, that the public health authorities can demand that the prostitutes are regularly examined for sexually transferred diseases and that both the women working as prostitutes and the madam would have to pay income tax.

I know that the Netherlands are re-considering the idea, but I still feel that the women working in legal brothels are better off than those working in countries where prostitution is illegal.

Sweden brought in a law some years ago now that made it possible to fine the men who used prostitutes. Unfortunately, it has not solved the problem, as the working girls pick up a pizza and "are just delivering it" to the man who called them!

Here in Denmark, where brothels are illegal, the expensive women work in high-end hotels or night-clubs, the majority work on the streets and have little or no protection, and the poor girls who have been trafficked from Asia, Romania or wherever are mainly forced to live in appalling conditions in illegal brothels and are being held as slaves.

Legalising brothels probably won't do these poor girls one jot of good, but it might mean that the police could concentrate on finding the illegal brothels and that the licensed establishments would rarely need to occupy police or court time.

trisher Wed 07-Nov-18 12:31:12

inishowen it was harrowing but actually I thought it manged to portray the violence involved quite well. It didn't glamorise it, wasn't too graphic but made you very aware how dreadfully the girls are treated.

Jane10 Wed 07-Nov-18 12:32:10

Good point GrandtantJE65

notanan2 Wed 07-Nov-18 13:28:33

I agree that legalised brothels would not reduce illegal prostitution.

The kind of men that like to abuse vulnerable prostitutes won't suddenly change their sexual preferences and go to nice clean "vanilla" brothels!

They LIKE the dirty anything goes abusive hovels with trafficked and underage girls.

They like the vulnerable pregnant sick addict prostitutes that they can abuse.

In fact a sex work support worker I knew told me that the sicker looking street workers were more in demand than the healthy girls and made more money for pimps. I also heard a story from a nurse, won't go into the details, where a very visibly injured prostitute reported to her that she made more money that way!

Greer spoke sense (in the old days anyway). Women underestimate how much men can hate them. Dont overrestimate men who frequent brothels: I do not believe that the type who visit vulnerable girls now would actually WANT to switch to regulated brothels with healthy assertive girls. The exact same amount of illegal prostitution would continue.

notanan2 Wed 07-Nov-18 13:32:49

The law needs to focus solely on the "purchaser" IMO.

But to really nip it in the bud I think that you gotta start with the porn industry. I dont mean banning porn but ease of access and classifications etc.

TerriBull Wed 07-Nov-18 13:36:17

Slight digression, I was glad the only lap dancing club in my neck of the woods was forced to close recently due to local residents' pressure, I believe the council revoked their licence. It was situated in a high street and allegedly late night Fridays and Saturdays weren't pleasant. I would like to think that girls who choose to work in such establishments do so of their own volition and without pressure. I don't like to seeing a lap dancing club in a high street where women and children will be passing by constantly, there is a girls school fairly near where this former club was sited. As we know some such establishments have a tacit policy to offer "extras" on the side. I hate the term "Gentlemens' lounge/club" it makes my skin crawl, " gentlemen" seems to be a euphemism for men who want to frequent such a smirky set up where the women are there to be grabbed and groped and generally leered at, which I suppose sums up a lap dancing club. I find them demeaning. I don't know what others feel about such places being on the high street.

leeds22 Wed 07-Nov-18 13:43:27

Many years ago, a senior colleague and a father of 3, was arrested for 'street crawling' ie, looking for prostitutes. His case hit the local paper headlines. What happened at work? He was moved to another branch with promotion.

notanan2 Wed 07-Nov-18 13:51:55

Skweek and her DS are living in a society where it is expected that men have sexual access to women. Until that changes, the dynamics of prostitution won't change. And the worst kinds of brothels will remain popular. We ALL have to change from the top down in order to make things better for sex workers.

Many women are in her DSs situation and many women don't find sexual partners until relatively late in life but women don't tend to feel OWED sex from the opposite sex and don't generally seek alternative routes to it where they have not yet attracted a sexual partner through mutual attraction.

Skweek, do you know any mothers of mentally and physically disabled females who would support, encourage or arrange for their daughters to be "serviced" by male sex workers if it was taking some time for her to find a boyfriend?

No?
Why do you think that is?

We all I think have a role to play. How we speak differently to and about sex to male and female young people etc..

Prostitution doesn't exist in a vacuum. It is PART of society. A symptom of the whole. Reactive solutions such as a few legalised brothels in bigger towns won't improve things for sex workers.

Addressing poverty, porn culture and social attitudes will

mabon1 Wed 07-Nov-18 13:53:47

You are a nimby clearly Maryeliza54!!

Riverwalk Wed 07-Nov-18 13:58:55

Mabon you clearly don't know what NIMBY means!

Maryeliza clearly doesn't want legalized brothels in anyone's backyard. And I agree with her.

notanan2 Wed 07-Nov-18 14:05:02

I know a few girls who have worked in the "lighter" end of sex work.

The type who "chose" it
They all did it for financial reasons. None of them had a preference for a career in sex work.

Had other financially viable options been available to those girls at those times then all but one of them would not have chosen sex work! (The one who did truly chose sex work had other job options but was extremely highly paid in her line of sex work) The others were in difficult financial situations (one escaping a chaotic home life, another newly separated single mum etc)

Welfare, education and other options would have kept them out of sex work.

I'm not sure that I am entirely convinced re the concept of the "happy hooker"

petra Wed 07-Nov-18 14:30:11

notanan2
As did a tenant of one of our properties ( chose too)
We had no idea.
She was one of the best tenants we had. Never missed a rent payment, kept the flat beautiful.

DotMH1901 Wed 07-Nov-18 16:11:10

Women providing sex for money isn't the problem, pimps and gangs that force young girls and boys into prostitution are. I think brothels should be legal and licensed and that there should be regular inspections, just as with any other business, to ensure that the regulations are being adhered to. Prostitution has existed for as long as people have walked the Earth, in some civilisations it was regarded as an honour to serve in the temples as a prostitute and such women were highly sought after for marriage when they 'retired'.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 07-Nov-18 16:25:20

It is the people trafficking which is the real problem. They get lured away from their homelands with promises of riches to come. When they arrive they get their passport and ID documents taken from them, are threatened that awful things will befall their families. Routinely beaten and kept locked away. The CPS should prosecute the gang masters, and if they are from overseas deport them with no chance of them being re-admitted to the UK

Legalised prostitution would not help these unfortunate young women.

Clean and regulated "brothels" is surely a better option than seeing girls/women on the streets soliciting.

As other posters have said, it is the oldest profession and I cannot see it ending in the foreseeable future.

notanan2 Wed 07-Nov-18 16:50:26

Women providing sex for money isn't the problem, pimps and gangs that force young girls and boys into prostitution are.
Those young and vulnerable people would not be working in legal brothels.

The men buying them have no interest in the type of assertive protected healthy adult women who would work in legal brothels. They WANT vulnerable people/children who have no say/rights

It would be business as usual for the illegal pimps and the vulnetable people they exploit.

notanan2 Wed 07-Nov-18 16:54:43

IMO legal brothels wont take a single client away from exploitative brothels. It is a different market/demographic.

They will mainly draw from the kind of clients that would otherwise visit strip clubs

notanan2 Wed 07-Nov-18 16:56:57

& the kinda girls who would work in legal brothels would be the kinda girls who work in strip clubs or for escort agencies, and NOT the street workers or pimped girls

notanan2 Wed 07-Nov-18 17:01:30

If legal brothels would reduce abusive brothels, why doesnt escorting already do that?

It doesnt because it is a totally different niche. Men who pay £20 for a vulnerable person they can do anything to dont pay upwards of £100 for escorts who can say no and have boundaries, and they wont pay for legal brothels either

Morgana Wed 07-Nov-18 17:03:55

very interesting thread ladies! I thought I was in favour of legalised brothels before I read some of your comments. Now I don't know.
Certainly the trafficking of young boys and girls for sex is a huge problem and something should be done.
One of the most interesting comments, which has really made me think, was the one about men expecting to have access to sex/violence. How can we change that?