Amen, Millie! Simply put, nail on the head!
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Okay,I think I am going to get bashed. Sorry folks who have retired to their holiday paradise land.
Our area is predominantly rural, with few large employers generating good incomes and thus pension pots are often low. But the big bonuses are beautiful scenery, beaches, no huge roads, friendly people and very little crime. Many of us are related, have long working relationships with each other, our children went to school together, we have kept local traditions going, supported countryside sports, football, rowing etc. In other words we have deep understanding and ties with each other and the land. We know the skeletons in our neighbours cupboards and that also bonds us.
But our lives have changed rapidly in recent years. There has always been a trickle of retirees. They have been welcomed and in their turn they have enriched our local community. Now virtually every time a house is sold it goes to an outsider. Often a cash buyer with a bigger pot of gold who can move quickly unlike the local person who cannot proceed with such speed.
Just like the icecaps our indigenous community is melting away because of the flood of retirees. Not only does it affect us as individuals, it affects our schools, sports clubs, our doctors surgery, our care of the elderly services etc.
Committees are often taken over by well meaning and well educated folk who have excessive time on their hands. Local knowledge is often not present anymore. Whenever a local entrepreneur wants to develop a business or a building project goes before planning there is a tremendous hue and cry. The new comers fight it with a vengeance. NIMBY. Social housing, so long as it isn’t next to the incomers.
Why do people retire to an area they have little connection with? Why do they in later years leave their friends and connections behind? Friends are quite different from acquaintances.
Amen, Millie! Simply put, nail on the head!
People retire to where they want because.....this is a free country. I'm afraid your village does not belong to you. You are free to move out. These aliens you talk about appear constructive and able to contribute to the general good. As far as I can tell you are not an endangered indigenous tribe despite what you may believe. I actually find something quite distasteful about any sort of exclusivity based on nothing but appearance as I'm sure most tolerant, non-judgemental, understanding and generous spirited people may do. These people have worked hard all their lives and are now enjoying all the benefits you want to deny them. I hope younever find yourself having to move to a new area and make a foundation for yourself by joining in and contributing to the community.
You obviously don't know your neighbours as well as you thought you did. The power is on the hands of those selling. Why aren't they selling to the locals? The reason is, they are motivated by greed. This is happening up and down the country and more so in Scotland where southerners are selling for a huge profit and buying bigger less expensive properties up here. Greed and money is why you are suffering.
Grandmainoz
Locals don't have a hope ????Have you ever questioned who sells these houses to your 'treechangers'.? The property, H and self bought for our retirement had been put on the market by, we learned from the agent , a local family who had relatives and friends in the same area. How were we the 'lucky' ones ? Could be by giving the asking price? So where was loyalty.?Not apparently when it comes to ones own pocket.
To the best of my knowledge, my maternal great grand father hailed from a village where distant relatives lived for centuries -- and continue to -
My maiden name appears for the first time in any historical text around 600AD - The origin of it, a complete mystery - They moved around a lot?
Genetically, there has to be a smattering of incestual issues in little villages where families never leave -
We live in the middle of the Northumberland National Park, the park puts a covenant on all new homes built stating that it can’t be a second home and you must either work or belong Northumberland. Some of the previous council houses have the same rules. Whilst it means we are not inundated with ‘outsiders’ it makes it difficult for those who would like to move away from the area as they are limited who they can sell to. I belong Northumberland my husband is a southerner, we retired here from Cambridgeshire however this was my home albeit it many years ago.
Might have been interesting if the OP had come back to see if the pot she stirred had boiled !!
We moved to a village a year and a half ago after living near London for over 30 years . We support local businesses and events and spend our money with local trade men if we can .
The lack of social housing means young people on agricultural wages move away so without the older ‘incomers’ the village would die .
BlueBelle. Well said. Paddyann* comment abhorrent. This thread really shows how people fail to see movement of people has always happened. Horror I know , but it is only 10,000 years since we were attached to Europe by land ( Thank God people came like the Romans and showed us how to build roads etc !
People can now live where they like, provided they have the money. That is the truth that rankles with those who do not. They feel a rather archaic lifestyle is under threat. But it is the same everywhere; no money, no power.
Specs. I find everything about your post appalling and abhorrent and I suggest you go and live on Mars
GabriellaG54. Yes I can’t believe someone posted be grateful they aren’t immigrants and asylum seekers. There but for the grace of God. Etc. And people say Brexit wasn’t racist. Pleeease !!!! Plenty of racists on here. Ashamed to be British sometimes. !
janeainsworth. Here here. It’s typical little Britain thinking. No wonder we are in the mess we are in now. It’s like Not even wanting domestic immigration Probably Leave area .
What's wrong with that.?
Oh England! No wonder there is so much trouble and strife in this country after reading through the “them against us” underlying attitude that’s prevalent in so many of these posts. Fanning the fires of the ever present UK class structure will make for a very miserable future for the whole retirement community both - new and long term residents as they battle away their “ golden years”.
We live on the outskirts of Cardiff. The city boundaries are ever expanding and counties are moving closer together due to extensive building by ripping up the fabulous countryside. What was once a lovely drive into the city through hedge lined roads are now mini housing estates either side. The traffic is getting worse and we have a four hour slot before between the school runs to get anywhere. I'm not complaining, just observing the changes.
There has been an increase in accommodation for over 60's where older people can have access to a thriving village, transport and health care. I think this is good as these types of assisted accommodation releases larger houses for families.
We have often toyed with the idea of moving to Cornwall which we love, but at our age it is just a dream as we fully realise what an upheaval it would be. So, we visit a few times of year instead, renting an apartment overlooking the sea.
Change is around us all the time, and we must accept it, even if it interferes with the status quo and interrupts a life we do not to see changed. Live and let live.
I don't have the experience the OP has. Mine is different and I think a bit peculiar.
In the 1950s my family moved into a house. I was a tiny tot in those days. Time moved on I grew up married bought various houses and moved around but mostly within 5 miles of where we moved to all those years ago.
Latterly I cared for my parents who are now dead and I inherited the house in my own name. The house has alterations for old age etc. As I am knocking on I thought this was a good plan.
Meanwhile the people who lived in the surrounding houses came and went, some also died out. There are only a very few of this style of house in the area. Two such houses lost their owners within 6 months. Both houses went to children of the previous owner. I don't know if people living nearby were watching the residents getting older and thinking they will die and the houses will be freed up.
I live alone in my house formerly my parents' house and I don't feel at all welcome here. To the point where I feel that I can't live in the house after 65 plus years of family residence. The actions of some neighbours have made me so uncomfortable with their constant watching my comings and goings. They never speak to me except when they want to know who visited me. Strangely there is a lot of NHS nursing staff in the vicinity. I know that one nurse was attending an elderly patient and when that person was going into care the nurse asked him to sell them the house rather than put it on the open market! ~Within 6 hours of the death of my last parent I had a person at the door stating she had heard of the death and what was I doing with the house!! She was an NHS employee.
As a result of this, I feel that I want to move to an area which may be similar to where OP lives. I have visited the area many times recently and I was stunned that strangers would say Hello or Good morning to me as I walked along streets.
Lived and worked in London for 2 happy years, Goldenage and sympathise with your view. Great short-term or to visit but not where we chose to make our home. Returned to Scotland, made good careers and raised our family.
15 minutes from the city centre takes us to wide open country side. Edinburgh 40 minutes away and Glasgow an hour.
2 excellent universities attract bright young people from all over the world, plus research funding ( much of which could be lost, of course). I live near the edge of the campus but have no significant problems with students!
Today I find I live in one of the UK's best 10 places to live, first in Scotland. ( No great surprise to us!)
Anyone who's open-minded, would be welcome here to enjoy all the advantages including reasonable house prices.
Live in Exeter and love cosmopolitan, love different languages spoken, love young learning people from everywhere and likewise retirees from wherever in U.K. & elsewhere. Change is a part of life, for better as well as worse.
Have been seriously considering moving out of our "commuter village/small town" which I have lived in on and off since last years of senior school.
Thought it would be nice to have a slower pace of life, and also free up a large family home for a family.
After reading the OP, flipping heck, I would be mortified to move into that village!!!!!!
I make no apology for my mortgage free existence or my pension pot, but blimey our generation really are now getting the blame for all that's wrong in the UK, global warming, no housing it will be plague and pestilence next!!!!
This is beginning to sound like the North/South divide. We have so many people now in the S E that in our town we must have every nationality under the sun, there are few problems really considering how packed in we are but you can hardly blame people for moving into the countryside if they are looking for a 'quieter' kind of retirement. We are working through our baby boomers old age now and as somebody else said with later retirement this moving around may slow down a bit. To specs I would say you are lucky to have got away with it, if that how you see it, up to now. I do know how annoying the middle classes can be when they get going on a Committee.
I agree with BlueBelle.
Sounds distinctly like BrexitLand!
Perhaps the 'townies' moving to the countryside are making spaces for the young from villages to move to the towns and cities to work, study and grow up.
It's hard to believe that there are areas where they live such an insular life that they abhor ripples from the bigger pools of humanity.
It's like a private club, a clique, a sect.
I endorse the comment made by BlueBelle.
I'm from the NorthWest and fitted very happily and seamlessly into life in a Surrey market town which has the highest rents outside London.
I'm accepted just as much as those who've lived here forever but I do get the feeling (from comments made by posters North of 'The border') that anyone not born there knows nothing about that area and is an infiltrator.
Happy to be corrected on that point.
Obviously we should be put in an island well away from “normal” people or in my case send me back to Ireland,even though I have paid taxes here and still do for 60 years and nursed for that length of time.i now see elderly people being looked after in hospitals eating purée food just waiting for it all to end.i remember very few old people in the London hospital where I trained,people lasted days in hospital then.i wonder if the advances in medicine for older people is great
We live in a beautiful village in rural North Wales, whose only community run shop and pub are manned by retirees, the majority of which are not Welsh! No ‘them and us’ here, we all appreciate our village and combine our time and efforts for the success of shop, pub, annual pantomime, village show, school events, Everyone benefits this way!
I used to work in a two-man outlet of a major bank in a pretty rural village. So often new customers came in to change their account details (pre-internet!) They had retired and moved to embrace country life after living and working in cities. But as time went by, maybe they were no longer able to drive, or one of them died, so often they then moved back to where they had come from to be nearer adult children. What seems ideal at 60 years of age isn’t so appealing perhaps 20 years on.
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