Son about to get married in St Lucia, wish I was with him.

Happygran…..totally agree with Bluebell.
Having taken a backseat with one of mine I agree its quite sad for us mums!
Well done though for not passing on your feelings of disappointment to the happy couple, you will benefit in the end
Best wishes to you all

I totally understand your disappointment but personally I think it’s a lovely way to get married (maybe just the parents there would have been better) but the awful razzmatazz of expensive weddings today make me think this is the sensible way to go
Good luck to the young couple and good on you Happygran for understanding even through your disappointment x

This does happen. Youngsters like to get married abroad.
.... my daughter did. No FT those days, just a quick phoncall.....I think ?
All good wishes to your son and his bride ??????☘️

Happygran1964 my daughter, her now husband and six year old granddaughter went to St Lucia five years ago and came back married. They didn't tell anyone what they were about to do. I was incredibly happy for them, they did it their way. They had a big party a few months later which was lovely. My daughter and granddaughter wore their wedding outfits.
It may not be the way you would have wanted but it was their choice. I hope you speak to them later and there will be all the lovely photos to see. X

Awww. Sad you are not there but im so glad you respect their wishes. Its hard being a mum

I totally sympathise, my eldest got married, abroad. We didn't even know they were getting married until two days before they flew out to vegas. Luckily we were able to watch it live by a video link, but it broke my heart to not be physically there.

Thanks everyone.
They decided they wanted it to just be themselves which I understand and want them to have their special day just as they like.
It’s just the mum in me feels sad.
I think they will FaceTime later.

Of course you aren't unreasonable to wish you were with your son and his new wife. As j52 suggests use Skype or something similar if you can and wish them well. Perhaps a party when they return?

Can you skype the happy couple to raise a glass?

Were you invited and unable to go or did they just decide to go it alone?

Of course, you are going to be disappointed BUT if you have a good relationship otherwise maybe you can just raise a glass and wish them well and hopefully look forward to seeing them afterwards?

I've seen a few wedding 'woe' posts lately with parents being excluded. I don't particularly understand it BUT as is often said, it is THEIR day, their choice and all you can do is bite your tongue and let them get on with it.

Doesn't mean I don't sympathise with you though - hugs