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Late again

(15 Posts)
grandtanteJE65 Mon 01-Jul-19 15:32:18

Give her the last appointment of the day in the future.

That way if she is late, you won't be holding the next person up.

Esmenonna Sun 30-Jun-19 12:48:11

Anagram, that really made me laugh!!!

Amagran Sun 30-Jun-19 09:00:50

My DH is the most unpunctual person I have ever met. It spoils my anticipation of holidays. Because of where we live, it is always a 3-4 hour drive to get to the ferry or airport. DH calculates exactly how long he thinks it will take and then refuses to allow time for traffic holdups or, worse still, the fact that he is never, ever ready on time. We're not talking about being 5 or 10 minutes late, we're talking about 45 minutes or longer. He then drives through the countryside at breakneck speed risking speeding tickets and far, far worse, with me sitting on the edge of my seat with every muscle in my body tensed. Then as we're driving like this, he barks out instructions for me to phone ahead to the airline/ferry operators to tell them that we're on our way!! As if they are going to hold up an entire ship or plane just for us! His faith in this approach to punctuality is unfortunately reinforced by the fact that we usually (but not always) catch said plane or ferry by the skin of our teeth. Once settled and the adrenalin levels have subsided to acceptable levels, he will turn to me, smile ruefully and say 'sorry about that'. Grrr!

Pantglas1 Sun 30-Jun-19 08:49:44

I worked with a woman who was always late and I asked her if she’d ever missed her holiday flight. Her reply was interesting.....Oh I would never be late for something important!

harrigran Sun 30-Jun-19 08:26:21

DH and I are always punctual for appointments but DH owes his life to a work colleague who was habitually late.
DH and his colleague were in Bath and they missed the train to London so had to get the next one, they arrived to utter chaos it was 7/7. If they had been on time they would have been on the tube.

PamelaJ1 Sat 29-Jun-19 17:48:53

Yes easybee, my hairdresser, till I changed was always late too. He cut so well that I put up with it until he moved to NZ.
Now my lovely lady is always ready for me. I’m usually 5mins early but always prepared to wait.

phoenix Sat 29-Jun-19 15:03:36

"Punctuality is the politeness of Kings" as they say!

However, my late beloved (titled) step father was an absolute b*gg*r for being late!

When they had any sort of occasion where they were supposed to arrive at a certain time, my mother would be ready and waiting, he would be faffing about!

In the end we all resorted to lying about the time of whatever the appointment was, usually by an hour.

Still was a pretty close call on occasions though!

eazybee Sat 29-Jun-19 15:00:45

It does work the other way too; my home hairdresser is frequently late, (may be other clients, may be traffic) then rushes through my appointment because she has to leave on time to collect her children from school.

Urmstongran Sat 29-Jun-19 13:11:27

PamelaJ1 a good moan now & again lets off steam so why not?
Hope you enjoy your holiday!
😊

PamelaJ1 Sat 29-Jun-19 12:42:53

Urmstongran, I usually do (leave time) but I’m going on holiday so I’m trying to accommodate as many clients as I can. For their benefit not mine!

I have also tried the trick of booking them in later than I put on their appointment card. Then they turn up on time and I’m not ready and have to apologise for keeping them waiting!

Just having a winge really. At my age I am trying to cut down on my working hours. Five minutes late is better than forgetting altogether.
That happens a lot too. Generally the same people. Even if they have had a reminder.

EllanVannin Sat 29-Jun-19 10:37:21

Some people would be late for their own funerals.

This really is one of my pet hates and my mum was the same but she used to kick-off. I learned years ago not to get into a tizz as it does no good and spoils the rest of your day because it stays inside you, simmering.

Just a grin through clenched teeth suffices.

Maybelle Sat 29-Jun-19 10:28:15

It is annoying that some are persistently late, but I would not take responsibility for them not missing a boat or bus by adjusting the departures time, to ensure they were there despite them being "late".

Surely by doing so you are just reinforcing the concept of them not taking responsibility for themselves.

Maybe make a light hearted arrangement to meet 30 minutes early to ensure you are in good time.
But I would not take responsibility for another adult in this way, exception being if there were memory issues.

nanasam Sat 29-Jun-19 10:19:43

I have a lifelong friend who is always, always late. I used to get quite cross with her but now when she visits me I add an hour on to her estimated arrival. Even when we were booked on a river trip recently, I told her she absolutely HAD to be there at 1030, even though the trip was at 1100! It's so frustrating, particularly if you are a person who keeps to agreed times. I'm afraid people like that don't seem to be able to change.

Urmstongran Sat 29-Jun-19 10:10:06

Perhaps allow a 5 minute break between appointments so it’s less stressful for you.

Or, if it’s a client who is consistently late, tell them their next appointment is 10 minutes earlier than it really is, so they’ll be ‘on time’.

More than one way to skin a cat!

PamelaJ1 Sat 29-Jun-19 10:05:58

My client is large again, should have been here at 10.
It takes me an hour to do her treatment and I have another client at 11.
Grr. She has just arrived.