My husband and brother in law have POA for their father who is 98 and suffering from vascular dementia. My brother in law had POA for my m.i.l. before she passed away. There is a third brother who lives a good 200 miles away and this was one reason he does not have it too. The other reason is that he has criminal record for claiming almost £40000 in benefits whilst claiming a sickness pension. His brothers had to pay almost £4000 in legal fees for him which they have not received back. His partner had to sell property I think to pay off a proceeds of crime order against him.
The three of them own the parental home through a trust and over the years, he has used it as a base to live in when he comes back up here. This has lead to him wanting to buy it from the trust which is not as easy as it sounds so this was made clear to his partner as he cannot negotiate with his brothers without it leading to a huge row. I have been happy to help my husband manoeuvre his way through the legal stuff as he's more than 10 years older than me and finds dealing with it hard but all decisions made on his father's behalf are his and his middle brother's.
This weekend he has been up to stay at the family house and contacted my husband about a repair. He began shouting and swearing and followed this up with a series of disgustingly worded text messages in which he accused my husband of handing his POA to me and that I was using their father's money to fund a small community business I run - something I always wanted to do. This certainly isn't the case and I am devastated by these horrible lies. I haven't done anything yet as my husband said it will all die down. Btw, this brother has been diagnosed as having a mental illness and has been in therapy for over five years. I know he's a liar and I should take no notice but I feel so upset and would very much appreciate a bit of advice.
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