My late DH died just over 2 years ago. He never really had time to get to know his only two GC, who are now 2 & 5.
My DH was a free spirit who loved life. He was a bon viveur, a walking encyclopedia, had great warmth and loved nature; a huge personality.
I'm on holiday with my DD, her husband and the GC, as well as her husband's parents.
DD's in-laws are very nice but they are the total opposite of my late DH; over cautious, reticent, unchilled and uber tidy. I feel they, and my SIL, are having a bigger influence over their/my GC. I feel so sad that my DH is not here to show them the fearless lust for life and openness that he had.
I mentioned this to my DD on this holiday, especially when her FIL complained about the danger of swimming in the sea here in Ibiza. It made me so sad.
It's as though my late DH is trying to tell me to show them how he lived his life and his way of thinking.
I don't know whether it's my grief that is making me feel.this way, or whether it's natural to want to pass on certain family traits?
Envious of real friendship - trouble making friends
Security is now so intense - cracking down on fraud
We owe the next generation better - children in shipping containers