Bit of a backstory to my situation. Sorry!
My daughter became pregnant while living and working in Asia. I'd been there too, but had relocated to another job in Spain. The father abandoned her and she quickly developed hyperemesis gravidarum so had to leave and come to live with me. She had the baby in Spain and we all returned to the UK when the baby was 4 months old.
Fast forward a year and they're still living with me. Because she'd been working overseas, she was unable to claim much benefit and consquently, has very little income. She is resistant to getting a job, because if she does, she'll lose what little benefit she gets. In addition, I think she wants the 2 years of stay-at-home-mum time I had with her. The difference was, I had a husband when I was at home and I was also studying via evening classes.
Daughter is untidy and dirty, which necessitates me doing housework when I arrive home from a 14 hour day. I've tried to talk to her, but she's quite aggressive and it just turns into a screaming match.
I'm a teacher and I'm 54. It is VERY hard to find teaching jobs in the UK once you're over 50. I'm currently on a contract until Xmas and then... no job. I'm thinking about going overseas again, BUT daughter and grandson would have to come with me because 1) She can't survive financially / has no where to live without me and 2) I love having grandson around and don't want to never be able to see him.
I feel so pressured. I'm getting older and want to stop teaching at 60 (not retire, I don't have a teachers pension and obviously, no state pension until 67). But what chance do I have of that with this responsibility? Don't get me wrong, I LOVE and adore my grandson. But... I'm getting older. I'm tired. My job is SO demanding.
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