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Completing the adoption story

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Tangerine Sat 07-Sept-19 22:16:56

I think Paddyann has given you excellent and succinct advice.

I hope things turn out well.

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paddyann Sat 07-Sept-19 20:53:35

contact them but tell them you dont expect them to speak to their mother about you,if they believe she doesn't know you exist.If she has known about you thats different,but either way you could get some information on your father .

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Briz Sat 07-Sept-19 20:50:24

I had thought like you, GrandmaMoira, that the kindest way maybe to wait but feel I might have to put things on hold for possibly another decade.
Thank you for your comment which I’m so grateful for.

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GrandmaMoira Sat 07-Sept-19 20:14:40

I imagine the mother is very elderly so you could possibly wait until she dies and then contact your siblings. Equally, you could contact your siblings and it would be up to them whether to tell their mother. It is always difficult in adoption reunions to judge what to do as it is impossible to know who knows about you. Personally, I think that if you want to contact birth relatives you should be able to.
I do realise this is a personal view and others would disagree.

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Briz Sat 07-Sept-19 19:26:20

After 62 years I have finally discovered the final piece of the jigsaw, my bio father’s identity. This was due to DNA matching and has been a long and protracted journey, he died in 2017.
My dilemma is I have discovered 2 half sisters, the eldest is 5 months older than me and the younger 18 months younger, their mother is still alive and had only been married to ‘our’ father for about a year when I was conceived. My birth mother died in 1959 so there is no one that will really know the true circumstances. Do I attempt to make contact with my half -siblings due to this delicate situation?

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