If you were sitting at a bus stop in the pouring rain....

A few years ago..in Proserpine Queensland....there were three men,probably in their 80s,chatting &laughing....I asked them if I could take a photo of them..they were flattered,the photograph is beautiful..one of my favourites...memories of the lovely chat I had with the three guys...

I don't actually know how I'd feel about it because I didn't experience it. But gonegirl was there and I assume there was something, not just about the words but about the manner in which they were said, that she found patronising and annoying.

I think if I were sitting at a bus stop in the rain (and it was possibly a bit cold too - and I might have been waiting for some time) I might feel a bit miffed at someone sitting in his warm, dry car finding the sight of three older people in a bus shelter in the rain entertaining.

Ok.

I'm not upset namsnanny. Just mystified.

I have no idea what you are talking about. Too long winded for me.

Oh! OK so you WERE asking seriously if you were being unreasonable then?

So the majority said they thought you were?

What is miserable about us all then? You asked and were told what people thought.

No need for bad language t.b.h. I wouldn't seriously expect to actually 'get' a lift from him - no matter which way he was going bahaha...

Lots of language on Gn goes over my head.
I'm very often mystified why people are behaving the way they do.

Honestly gg, I'm not on the same page, so sorry your so upset!

Not that I would have got in a car with him.

And, as I've said before, he was going the wrong fucking way!

Nothing tongue in cheek. Just wish I hadn't started it at all with you miserable lot.

Goodnight.

Gonegirl Maybe just the wrong forum to start a tongue in cheek thread? You are asking if you are being unreasonable on AIBU....maybe if you had posted on the 'chat' forum, the responses would have been different? Just a thought.

For the record, I don't really think I would have been offended - maybe would laughed and asked him for a lift - as someone else suggested?

I’m sure chewbacca laughs at things she finds funny

You need to grow up chewbacca and have a bit of a laugh.

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I just put two fingers up

I didn't flip him the bird (down on the street aren't I? ) I just put two fingers up

Baggs, people ARE quite capable of being unintentionally offensive. Doesn't mean they meant to be rude but they are.

Yep! It's that kind of birthday card I've been thinking of Amagran. I don't like those cards.

I am quite happy to laugh at myself when I am being stupid in shops, for example looking for my glasses when they are sitting on top of my head. I still maintain that I would not be amused if someone called out of a car window in passing - in that situation I would have been laughed at, not laughed with.

If they had been walking past and there was chance to have a laugh with them, that is a completely different situation.

No one wants to end up being mocked in a sepia-tone photograph on a birthday card with a speech bubble coming out of their mouth. Oops! sweeping generalisation - some on GN might not mind!

You never know how things are are gonna be taken on Gransnet, do you.

Oh for heaven's sake. I was only kidding about always looking for ageism, although it's true ageism is something I dislike.

The chap was being ageist. You had to be there.

Wish I hadn't started this thread. Thought it might be enjoyable. Or at least fairly lighthearted.

Anyway, it seems gg was kidding on, as is her wont. ?

If it felt offensive, then it was offensive.

I don't agree with this. If a person feels offended, certainly they feel offended, but that does not mean that anyone intended to offend them, nor that anyone was offensive.

Just thought I'd chip in with that. It isn't necessarily someone else's fault if I take offence.

It really depends on how it is said. I would probably not have been very amused by someone calling out from a car window, because it would not have been clear to me what was so remarkable about 3 people sitting in the rain waiting for a bus.

Not a million miles away from wolf-whistling.

I don't really think that anyone but Gonegirl would know whether it was offensive. If it felt offensive, then it was offensive.

There was no way he would have said that to a group of forty year olds.

How do you know that?
Have you seen him regularly pull up at bus stops and specifically call out to waiting passengers who are 60+?

I live my life watching out for ageism

Then I'm sure you'll find it somewhere, at some point of the day but why go around seeking it out? The driver could have been a keen amateur photographer who looks for interesting snapshots of daily life. I'd have smiled and said "You're right, it would". But then I'm not a perpetually offended curmudgeon