to think that perhaps we should be more tolerant of fellow posters?

GrannyLaine ..... excellent posts from you.??

That's a shame Shelmis but I think that's happened to most of us at some point or other but you shouldn't let it put you off posting. I joined a few years ago and my very first post was jumped on, from a great height, by a long establised and vociferous poster. I was roundly told off! But I received a private message from a couple of other, kinder posters who encouraged me not to be put off and to stand my corner. I did and I'm very glad I did so because I've made some wonderful friends here. Please, stick with us! It gets better!

As I said, Shelmiss the political threads have some posters who have specialised in political argument, and seem to think that anyone else expressing an opinion ought to conduct their posts as though they are preparing a dissertation for debating society. Mind you, I have read some illogical statements from some who consider themselves experts.

Almost all of the discussions on Gransnet, though, are amicable. It is perfectly possible to disagree with someone's opinion without insulting their intelligence or their character, or ranting at them!

I think that was where Valerie made a mistake - she ranted at everyone, and thus acted as exactly what she was complaining about, which put some backs up.

Shelmiss
Ah yes, the demands to ‘explain ourselves’ using umpteen facts and figures ( for our every comment)?I remember it well.
You carry on ‘carrying on’ and don’t be wary.

Shelmiss I know exactly what you mean! I also am very wary of certain threads (and posters!) You certainly need a thick skin to join in some debates. I am saddened by the way some people word their opinions, they can be quite cruel. I really don't think most people would speak in real life to others that way, well, I hope not anyway. In some ways I wish I was tougher, but then again ......

There is only one actual poster, Rufus2, the Antipodean poster
Marydoll Go on! : finish it off,
"but we don't quite like him!," the cheeky SOG!
Ta-Ra

Is there a Rufus in the house? Step forward and say something
*Jalima*.; Sorry! Lemongrove Which one do you want!?
There are 3 Rufi!

Rufus (aka Chewbacca prior to her sex change.)
Rufus S (AWOL!)
Me!

Your call!

Looks like you've answered your call to the party Rufus2
Play nicely now

Some posting on this thread are drawing a smile from me. One forum member who is telling all and sundry that they should be more pleasant to one and another recently accused me of being totally ignorant in regard to a matter I had not even made reference too.

I then pointed out the error to him/her to which the poster disappeared from the thread never to return. ?

I feel some in this thread should think back over their past posts and how they have addressed other forum members before sounding off in regards to their wonderful character here.

Do you mean me Grandad1943? I hope not! I may have disagreed with some of your posts on political threads but I hope I've never been unpleasant to you? Apologies if I ever have.

Shelmiss
You mean you don't keep up to date Excel spreadsheets of everything?
Very remiss of you.
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Rufus you have me more than ever (I'm very easily at the moment.

T'other Rufus (Rufus S) sends his best.

Re: Grandad1943's comment - it wasn't me, in case anyone is wondering!

How's it all going Grandad?

I may have argued with you about a certain subject but we were, obviously, both coming at the discussion from different angles and, I realise with totally different experiences. Neither were wrong probably.

Rufus, today of all days, Back Off.
If anyone wants to know why I'm upset, please read the GM thread.

Rufus Sewell is an actor I like, that's it, why does it always have to be about you?

And I am still on the thread

Stop it, Rufus You are very quick to complain about how someone speaks to you, so stop prodding others.

Well said, Cari. How are you and your family? I hope you are all well and will remain so.

Cari , I would like to add my best wishes too, to all the team. GN is a lifeline for many.
I have experienced so much kindness today.

I would never normally be unkind face to face but sometimes I want to give a very blunt reply to somebody.

What I do is write an angry reply. This vents all my aggression but then I delete the post without sending. Nobody gets hurt. I feel like I have given them a good telling off. Simples.

Laughterlines that is exactly what I do ??

And me?