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Why won't people MOVE out of other people's way?

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Beswitched Mon 30-Mar-20 12:50:44

I've heard of so many people who have given up going out for their daily walk here in Ireland because they spend the entire time hopping off the pavement and out onto the road to get out of the way of people who seem to want to hog the entire pavement.
Family groups are the worst. It never seems to occur to them to bunch up or go in single file when they meet on comers. They just barge on and expect everyone to work around them.
Surely people should be aware of others and stop giving people a choice of brushing up against them, or stepping out into the road.

I know the chances of catching covid 19 like this are small, but at the moment advice is to observe the 2 mtr rule and people are not comfortable with others coming too close.

CherryCezzy Tue 31-Mar-20 12:12:14

Gwenisgreat1 what an absolute a......e! Did he stop when you fell? If not, what a thoroughly despicable chap.

Nanaplenty most couples could do as you suggest with one of them staying in the car and it is a sensible solution.
There are some, however, who cannot do this as in their particular case it would not be sensible and they don't have any choice. It still doesn't mean that these couples should not obey social distancing guidance though. We all need to act responsibly.

Nannan2 Tue 31-Mar-20 12:11:51

Maybe it would be better to get a sign saying that you may have the virus i bet they'd move out of the way then!!

gillyjp Tue 31-Mar-20 12:08:05

I agree. The worst for DH and myself is the flipping runners/joggers who come up behind you and overtake you not keeping the 2 metre rule. Makes me furious. We are so busy looking ahead ready to cross over or give oncoming walkers a wide birth we dont notice runners until they are almost breathing down our necks! Do they really think that because they are running that there's no chance of cross contamination? Ggrrr

Beanie654321 Tue 31-Mar-20 12:07:59

I have just returned from my 30 mins of exercise. I haven't been off my property for over 3 weeks and I shall not do it again, my anxiety was through the roof. I've been outside in the garden every day as I am trying to remodel garden so getting fresh air. It wasn't the walkers that bothered me but the bikers who think that riding on the pavement is acceptable. I had to walk in the road to miss a few. Home it will be for the next few weeks. Xx

Nannan2 Tue 31-Mar-20 12:05:46

Yes ExD,had that problem other day too,with the trolleys,my son drove me to a fairly new Lidl about 2mins from us(we DO live in same house,so ok on rules!) They had spray for cleaning trolleys& he& i both had our disposable gloves on,we were let in as queued,and were some markings to 'space you apart'- all good.but there were still Lidl guys stuck in centre filling shelves,and we had to get closer than the 2metres to get round them,then we got to last aisle and what i thought was a long spaced out queue was actually some waiting for a woman to pass so they could move up to tills- she seemed to be browsing the few mags(without touching i hope) but they wouldn't move round her,no one said anything either,so i said it to my son loud enough & she must have heard& began moving!( i need my son to help as ive got arthritis in knees& now arms& wrists too,so we go together) we walk apart instore usually anyway as he wanders off to find things.

NannyG123 Tue 31-Mar-20 12:02:25

My h and I went for a walk down by the river last week, which is normally fairly quiet. Think lots of people had the same idea. The path wasn't very wide. And not just family members grouping together. There were groups of young people together, not getting on single file. So we didn't stay long. And won't be going back until all this is over.

MRGUDER Tue 31-Mar-20 11:55:53

Brilliant Link Shysal. So funny.
My suggestion is you carry an umbrella and if you see a group approaching, open it up in front of you. That way they will have to walk around you and hopefully realise they were being ignorant.
In fairness, the other day, I encountered a family of 2 adults and 4 kids and they all stood by to let me pass. So I thanked them.

JanT8 Tue 31-Mar-20 11:54:40

Have to say where we live, a large town, people are generally really good. Our daughter says she finds the supermarket the worst! People often look at her ‘gone out’ and say, ‘Oh, do you want to get past?’. When she says, ‘No, social distancing’ it often doesn’t register!

olliebeak Tue 31-Mar-20 11:49:17

I feel awful for saying this - don't want to be a 'smoker basher' - but for years, I've been dodging smokers when out walking. I really cannot abide the smell of cigarette smoke.

I won't walk behind somebody who's smoking. And when passing somebody who is smoking and coming towards me, I take quite a deep breath, and then don't exhale/inhale until I'm well past the point where we crossed.

The absolute worst is when on a bus. I usually sit in the 'extra leg-room seats' towards the front of the bus. When people are queuing up to get on board, if they are smoking, they have a tendency to take one last BIG drag on their cigarette before getting on board and throwing their dog-end away. They pay their fare and then walk past the driver and give a big exhale before sitting down, as they pass me - aaaaaargh sad.

Petalpop Tue 31-Mar-20 11:47:37

grandtanteJE65 I agree with you and that is what I do under normal circumstances. I refuse to walk into the gutter because people will not move. I just stop dead. They move. I do not do it at the moment as my life is precious to me and I will not risk it for a stranger.

nipsmum Tue 31-Mar-20 11:47:08

People in Aberdeen must be more polite than some places. Its not a problem I've come across much here. Must people are prepared to stand or step away or stop and wait. We occasionally get a stand off situation then one smiles says thank you and passes on.

Kim19 Tue 31-Mar-20 11:35:14

I'm in the lucky brigade here. So far people of all ages have been respectful of 'the gap' and pretty congenial into the bargain when I do my daily circuit. My supermarket visits reveal a little thoughtlessness sometimes but so far nothing I haven't managed to work around. My amused/anxious encounters have been with a couple of elderly guys who wore a definite expression of irritability combined with 'what a load of nonsense' attitude. These were separate occasions. I hope they fare well but grumpy would certainly have been an understatement.

Sarahmob Tue 31-Mar-20 11:34:19

I have my grandson living at my house at the moment. Whenever I take him out in his pushchair for our daily fresh air/exercise people here have been great about stepping off the pavement and moving onto the quiet country roads we walk along. Very fortunate.

Tiggersuki Tue 31-Mar-20 11:33:04

Wish I was brave enough to carry Nonnie's sign. Or maybe a sign that says to the youngsters KEEP AWAY YOU MAY BE A CARRIER OF THE VIRUS.
Was fed up in the past of people walking along looking at their phones and took to just standing still but of course they tend to carry on walking towards you until they spot your feet.
Yesterday when I had my short walk I moved into a driveway to avoid an oblivious talking young couple coming towards me and heard the girl say as they passed me I think she was trying to avoid us.YES I WAS!
Don't understand why they still feel immortal when young ones are dying too.
Help, the world has gone mad

MaggieMay69 Tue 31-Mar-20 11:32:05

I have to disagree though, around where I live, the teens are being wonderful, collecting shopping for those who can't get out, and the selfish ones are the older generation, between 45-65, who seem to think they are more invincible than the kids!

They're driving (only to get to a more rural area to walk!!) no, stop driving unless it is essential! You could break down, or have an accident...its selfish. If you have a garden, exercise there!

grandtanteJE65 Tue 31-Mar-20 11:30:16

I have found two things that work.

If I am walking towards people, I just keep straight on and never move towards the kerb. They are thus forced to make way.

If I am walking behind them, I say, "Excuse me", very clearly. If they don't react, I add, "I would like to pass you, please, without stepping off the pavement."

Guineagirl Tue 31-Mar-20 11:29:10

It read I cycle on path I mean when they are on the path I maintain 2m by swerving into the middle of the road but some just are not trying.

Caro57 Tue 31-Mar-20 11:27:52

Re judging 2 metres - Somebody told me - imagine a coffin!!!
Seems to get the message across

Alioop Tue 31-Mar-20 11:26:26

I go out for my one walk a day with my dog and end up in a rage by the time I'm home with some stupid people taking up the whole path either running side by side or chatting away. I'm the one lifting my dog and carrying her onto the road to get away from them. There was one young girl in her teens the other day, walking and swinging her arms way out and there's was me& the dog in the middle of the road again. Social distancing my bottom!! Some haven't a bloomin clue!

Guineagirl Tue 31-Mar-20 11:26:19

Good thread. I am coming across this everyday. Walkers I see who I have never seen before walking cyclists too. I was cycling yesterday a couple coming towards me, one on the path one on the road where am I supposed to go so I had to stop well before them allow a car behind me to pass and go into the middle of the road. Runners are being considerate as I am to everyone allowing 2m when I pass pedestrian on the path. Cycle lanes well the dog walkers will not budge so I aren’t using them, This was never a problem for me cycled for eleven years now and never saw walkers all of a sudden rusty bikes are on the road and hoards of families hogging the path.

Gwenisgreat1 Tue 31-Mar-20 11:26:13

Well before this all started, I was walking along a crowded pavement in York. I noticed a bloke who appeared a bit pretentious and decided to keep out of his way - I was too late, he barged me onto the cobbled road where i shattered my femur and spent 2 weeks in hospital and still have joint problems over 2 years later!!

Petalpop Tue 31-Mar-20 11:20:28

I was out for my morning hike when a woman on a bicycle was coming along the middle of the path towards me. I kept on thinking she will go into the road in a minute - no traffic so why use the pavement. I had to walk in the road and I really let her have it. I told her you should be in the road not me, path for walkers road for cyclists. I must have been shouting at the top of my voice because I always have music blaring in my ears to keep up my momentum whilst walking. By the look on her face she was dumfounded. In my opinion some people are just plain thick.

MadeInYorkshire Tue 31-Mar-20 11:19:17

Ha, ha, as I have spent 20 days in hospital recently. I now have a surgical mask that I wear when out - I am well aware it is not much use, but it certainly keeps people way from you! Lol ....

Aepgirl Tue 31-Mar-20 11:11:20

Walking on the road, with care. It’s easy at the moment with so little traffic.

sarahellenwhitney Tue 31-Mar-20 11:10:14

Elegran. I stop, stand still, and wait.
Ninety nine point nine % are so wrapped up in their own little world they walk around me. As for the others ? I cross that bridge(not literally)grin )when I come to it.