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Money to children

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Daisymae Fri 31-Jul-20 14:54:19

I think that when you give money it's gone and no strings attached. Otherwise it's just a form of control. A gift is just that.

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Urmstongran Fri 31-Jul-20 14:48:50

I always think that money, once I’ve given it away, is no longer mine.
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Hithere Fri 31-Jul-20 14:35:24

"we like to help them out financially if we think they need it."
What if they don't need it? Why not wait for them to ask you of they need help?

I would back off. What your son and dil decide to do with their finances is their business

For the record- moochers shouldn't be given any money "just because".
They should work and earn their own money to afford their own extravagant tastes, not living on somebody else's dime.

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timetogo2016 Fri 31-Jul-20 13:24:32

No you are not.
I would pull back on being generous as ds wants to help his brother out, he IS doing it with your money.
And i would be inclined to say that to him tbh.

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Buffy Fri 31-Jul-20 13:19:48

Our son and daughter-in-law both work and never ask for anything but we like to help them out financially if we think they need it. Now daughter-in-law’s parents see they are doing well and think they should financially support a brother and partner who are VERY extravagant and in debt. This couple are now splitting up and our son says maybe he should subsidise them, but that’s our hard earned money they would be parting with. Are we being unfair to be annoyed?

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