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Must be a Bad Grandma

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phoenix Mon 10-Aug-20 16:01:11

Well said Mamie5!grin

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Callistemon Mon 10-Aug-20 15:56:24

Just say how much you love to see them (?) but that your babysitting/childminding days are over.

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Esspee Mon 10-Aug-20 15:26:04

I don’t blame you in the least OP. I see so many adults who fail to parent their children allowing them to go feral.

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AGAA4 Mon 10-Aug-20 15:20:48

Not everyone wants to babysit their grandchildren and their wishes must be respected.
It is very hard too when their standards of behaviour for their children are different from your own.

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timetogo2016 Mon 10-Aug-20 15:08:17

Yes i agree too Septimia and Oopsadaisy3.

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Oopsadaisy3 Mon 10-Aug-20 14:58:58

I’m with Septimia on this one.

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Septimia Mon 10-Aug-20 14:56:12

Difficult. But then we all do things differently. I would say that if babysitting in their home, it's their way of doing things but if the children are in your home, then your rules apply. If their parents don't like it then they know what to do.

If you raised 4 children then why should you be expected to want to babysit another generation? Just tell the parents that you'd rather not as, sorry, you wouldn't remember to do things the way they like.

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Mamie5 Mon 10-Aug-20 14:50:41

Is there anyone else like me, who God forbid, does not want to be the defacto babysitter?
I dread the out of town visits. They stress me beyond anything else, and I’ve been stressed.
My DIL seems to think everyone wants to spend all their time with her children. Maybe if they had manners and were even slightly well behaved. And I dare not reprimand because I know nothing, even though I raised four kids including the one she chose to marry, their way is the best way, and anything else is wrong. The kids are never called to task, and are never reprimanded for their behaviour. On the rare occasion they are, there is never follow through.
I hear my friends talk about how they live to spend time with their grandkids and I feel so ostracized. I’m scared to state how I feel for fear of being vilified.
Oh well, I’ve put it out there. Lord help me now. hmm

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