“Curious” neighbour

I'm sure they do.
I hope they never read gransnet!

Maybe it's because you're friendly and welcoming MissA. They probably go home and say to each other "Isn't MissA lovely! She's always so pleased to see anyone and stand and chat, even when she's clearly on her knees with exhaustion! I think we make her day for her!"

Nope.
My neighbour has a huge family, who all have lots of friends, and they all visit a lot.

They come and knock at mine, too.

They are probably very lonely and struggle to find things to fill their days, hence the curtain twitching and filling in the diary. However, I can see why you would be unsettled by this. It would make me wonder if they had binoculars trained on my house so they didn't miss anything.

It does, and has for the last 17 years.

You win MissA! That would drive me insane!

My neighbour knocks frantically on my door as soon as I come in, (if she missed calling out to me as I came down the path- rare, that) as well as peering through the window.
If that doesn't work, she phones.

That last bit made me laugh Toad-in-the-hole!

My ‘curious’ neighbour once commented on the very late night we had and didn’t like it when I retorted, well you were up late as well!

Mine also likes to inform me, on a regular basis, that most people in the street have given her a set of keys for safe-keeping. There’s usually a long pause after she’s said it, where it’s obvious I’m meant to say, here’s ours!

That will never happen as I’ve seen how often she goes over to those houses while they’re away!

I wouldn’t find anything wrong with that particular subject. I wouldn’t do it myself, but it’s being different that makes us so interesting as a human race. If they were privy to the exact time you went to bed every night.....well, I would find that creepy, not just odd!

The lady over the road (a few years older than us) always seems to know what everyone is doing, and one day during lockdown at about 11am we had a text from her saying 'Haven't noticed any movements today, are you ok?' Kind of her, but we felt a bit weird, that we were being watched, we had got up quite late and were getting on with our lives indoors and in the back garden, as directed by the Government!

I'm very lucky to have lovely, helpful and friendly neighbours on both sides of me but the one across the road is a total pain in the backside. No matter what time of the day I leave my house, she's immediately out of her front door shouting "Chewbacca, are you going out? Where are you going? You couldn't just get me....... could you?" As soon as I pull onto my driveway, she's back out, shouting "Chewbacca, have you a minute, I need to ask you......". She's not a little old lady, living alone and short of company; she's younger than me with adult children living with her. She just seems to need to know where I'm going and where I've been. Does my 'ead in!

We have quite the opposite in our semi. Despite sharing a dividing wall and garden fence with our neighbours, they go out of their way to avoid us, literally scuttling into their house if they're outside when we come in or out to avoid answering our "hellos" to them! In five years of living beside them, we'probably spoken for a total of five minutes, when it was absolutely necessary. So the opposite situation to yours Esspee, but still weird! ?

I would find it all very annoying to be honest, but then we doNot tell our neighbours our private business anyway, we only tell them odd snippets more idle chit chat, we have too many curtain twitchers down our road, it’s quite amusing

Made me feel bad now. My friend is on holiday in Corfu and just posted where she is having lunch. I got on Google maps to have a look, or should I keep that to myself. I am just interested so that I can ask her about it when she comes home. We have been friends for 56 years so I don't think she will think me weird.....or will she?

Why offer them such info to work with, if you don’t want their unfiltered input ?!

Your property is probably very secure when you are away with your neighbours obviously keeping a close eye on it.

I forgot to add, I don’t think you’re weird and I don’t think they are. You’re just different. They’ve been very useful to you and you get on. If taking an interest in your holiday is the worst thing they’ve ever done, just thank your lucky stars you’ve got good neighbours.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

I’m the most unobservant person imaginable - I once walked past a burnt out car in the carpark where I worked and famously let myself in through the back door there without even noticing that somebody had spent half the night chiselling out bricks round the door to try to get in.

So I’m glad I’m married to a nosey neighbour someone who takes an interest in what’s going on and can let me know who’s who and what’s what on the street. I wouldn’t have a clue otherwise.

We have a nosey neighbour who actually said to us when we moved in, that watch out for so and so, and so and so, because they are nosey!! Actually they weren't as bad as her!! She can tell you exactly who had deliveries and when, what was going on in their lives and sometimes her behaviour was very intrusive, not towards me but others. I just learnt to pull back. On the other hand, she will do anything for anyone. Best to just not tell them the things you wish to keep private, find it amusing and enjoy your day.

I just think they were trying to be helpful.
I don't think either of you is weird-just different.

18 months ago we moved house mainly to get away from the nosiest neighbours I have ever come across. We lived there for 25 years when we moved. They had been there 10 years. They were nosey and gossipy and still are. The man would 'pretend' to water the verge to have an excuse to be outside in the lane to accost passersby especially on a Sunday morning. If an ambulance went past he would be out in a flash to walk his dog. He used to eavesdrop out of sight on the other side of our hedge if we were in our garden. We didn't have a front and back garden, it was just the garden. We had a high window abutting their path and he would stand under it and listen to conversations in the house. There is loads that went on. My mother caught the woman peering in through our windows when we were away. They 'found' various items behind our garage, again when we were away and asked if they could have them as we had obviously thrown them out. The neighbours the other side had similar issues with them. They knew everyone's business in the village and didn't hesitate to spread it around whilst adding that of course they would never gossip. They were and still are hateful nosey individuals. What amazed me though was how they ingratiated themselves with people in the village by pretending to be ultra helpful. Putting out bins whilst people were away and checking for post etc. At one time they had about 6 sets of keys for various local residents. I'm so relieved to say that I never ever let them have a door key to our house although they tried very hard to get one. He was also one of those people who thought he was very popular and would greet people with a hug and kiss regardless of how well he knew them. They got to us in the end and we decided to move as we needed to downsize anyway. I've since learnt that he is a key holder for the new owner when they are away and yes, I feel guilty knowing what I know. I would not wish them on anyone.

Could he have recorded the date of your drive repair in case he needed to move his car or anything?

Holiday is a bit much. That is the sort of thing I might expect a close friend to ask although, if they were that close, I would probably have already told them.

They sound harmless, just curious.

If they were otherwise pleasant and good neighbours I would just guard my tongue about my doings when speaking with them, and be vague when answering questions.
I have a neighbour who is incredibly nosey but otherwise kind hearted. His apartment is across the hall from mine. He notices everything - all the comings and goings, and seems to know everyone in the vicinity. He's not too intrusive and I find him amusing. He should have been a detective, but he's a chef. If he hasn't seen me about he rings and checks that I am alright. The nosiness and the way he gossips are balanced by charm and kindness.

We used to have someone on GN who said she kept notes about us all.