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Marydoll I have added ???? to my ??

I’m very guilty of not reading all the posts. Some are just too long, and I know that’s already been said! I ‘pretend’ it’s just me and the poster, and I answer them as such. I’ve said that before too?.

From now on every time I post anything I will post, 'I AM A BELGO-SCOT first.
Could be interesting !!
Probably get asked where Belgo is

Mary To be honest, sometimes when I post and someone further down posts the same as me I get a bit annoyed!

Kate, I'm just a grumpy old woman, today!! ? Ignore me!

I was guilty of this on the joggers thread. I was trying to be helpful and jumped in too quickly. My excuse is that I'm bored and was excited to see something I could contribute to

I am pretty sure this has been said before so I apologise, on my tablet all the OP posts on a thread are highlighted in green. My responses are highlighted in pink/purple. Does make things a lot easier. On my phone however nothing is highlighted.

From what's been said, I think people do (leave the thread). Which is a shame, really, if the OP hasn't got to the bottom of what she's asking about.

I’ve actually given up answering some questions, like when a poster asks for advice on what to do about something, only to get replies detailing how much worse other posters’ experiences were of the same thing, but no advice given, which is what the poster asked for.
There are also the ones where a poster gives a small bit of information, and is immediately met with...’ It sounds to me as if.......’, and then ‘ You need to’ do such and such.
Sadly, it seems to me to be a continuation online of the lack of listening in real conversations, where you see people who can’t wait to put their ‘two penn’orth’ in before actually listening to what the other person has to say.
( I know, I am a grumpy old woman!)

PS doodle, that wasn't directed just at you. I should have said "people can just...." to make that clearer.

I just have to watch my mouth

Or, if there are developments as well, skim read the repetitive stuff and get your teeth into the meat of the subject. That’s not difficult either.

So just leave a thread if it’s going round in circles, doodle. What’s difficult about that?

Another thought: if the OP is a question or a request for advice, repeated answers saying more or less the same thing could be quite helpful by showing a sort of common denominator.

Bit like repeated expressions of sympathy or congratulation.

It's really not about that, Baggs. It's that people take time to respond (taking into account the development of the thread, noting what has been added to the OP) and then the next replies take no account of that whatsoever, and just respond to the OP, which will often not have all the information in it.

Subsequent replies do the same, and nothing makes any progress. What's the point of someone asking advice if the thread is going to go round and round because people can't be bothered to read the posts and see what has already been suggested but wouldn't work for whatever reason?

People will obviously agree with previous posts at times, and want to say so, but that's not the same thing at all. 'I agree with X - I did that and it worked really well' or whatever is adding something to the thread. It is agreeing with a suggesting that has already been discounted that is a bit pointless. It might have seemed a good idea, but if the OP has already said that it's not feasible in the circumstances, there is nothing to be gained by lots of posts suggesting it over and over, particularly when the thread has moved on since it as first mooted.

What an irritable bunch!

I really don't see what's so awful about someone saying what you've said already. Why shouldn't they? It happens a lot in "real" life and damages no-one.

Why shouldn't someone just reply to the opening post of a thread? Especially if it's a question. I'm pretty sure that's all that's happening. The fuss people keep on making (there are loads of these complaining threads) is astonishing. It strikes me as rather possessive (the cheek! I said that first; it's mine!) and a little bit arrogant (how dare someone say what I said?).

Unfortunately not allowed??????, but I will have some ?????? instead!

phoenix

I'm pretty sure that a few days ago when to person who started the thread came back to post, their responses were highlighted in green, but now it's stopped.

Does anyone else remember it?

No but I wish it happened.

I started a similar thread about reading the posts a while Back and got roundly told off! But it drives me nuts.

I'm pretty sure that a few days ago when to person who started the thread came back to post, their responses were highlighted in green, but now it's stopped.

Does anyone else remember it?

PS. I am! The

marydoll I tend to agree about GN. Have a or a

Oxymoron has just been used again, even after I commented. I rest my case. I do like that word, but it's overkill.
I'm off out to the garden, before I get into trouble.

I agreed with you Marydoll it was that which bugged me too nd recently someone talking about their husbands birthday celebrations in Australia.....even after the event had happened people were still saying “it’s his birthday let him choose “!,

Sorry, dragonfly, not you! It was the repetition of oxymoron, that got to me today.
It sounded clever the first time!

I'm in a low tolerance mood today. All the suspensions and deletions on GN are getting to me at the moment. GN used to be such a welcoming place. It's an over reaction on my part.