DH taking no action

Are you also working? If not I would take over this task as DH maybe under stress in his work. After 37 years he's not going to change, so either do it or wait. Ive taken early retirement and DH is still working. I discuss things with DH but its me who does the work.

If you can’t bear to sit it out and let things trundle on, I would take over what you can, and just get it done. Frustrating, but perhaps more bearable than gritting your teeth on the sidelines. I can’t see your husband changing his approach now.

We are currently involved in a small property purchase, updating wills, and some business admin involving solicitors, and I totally agree that unless you constantly chase, nothing seems to happen for weeks at a time. This has been true of all the solicitors we have used. One especially is absolutely dreadful, promises things for ‘middle of next week’ and we’re still waiting 3 weeks on.

I think in your shoes I would just take over the role in order to get the job done and offer to sort out his family estate too. My dh is so back he is horizontal. I used to get really worked up over his lax attitude. Now I just get the jobs done myself or appoint a professional and chase them to completion and life is more harmonious at home. We agree on many other aspects of life so I just choose as the more motivated partner to.take over some jobs.

My DH has a similar attitude and it drives me mad, but after 60 years of marriage I know he won't change. I'm really just adding to the advice you already have and that's to get on with it and do it yourself. I think these men are afraid of making a hash of these things and are shirking the responsibility, but it does no good telling them so.

I understand your frustration , it is a pain but you are better at organising , don’t let it get under your skin . The sooner you take over the better , it is so much more difficult when you are not on the spot !
Just a thought , sell your house and leave he’s family property to him
Good luck

Nothing happens in house moves, whether viewings, sale agreemen, solicitor unless you badger, badger, badger. If your DH is not a badgerer, you will have to do it for him.

I and my mother had the same problem with my father after my sister died. He was of the old school that believed that you gave Instructions to a Professional person and they went away and worked hard on your project and came back as soon as the job was done. We could never get him to understand that nothing happens unless you are constantly on the phone reminding those involved each day of the work that needs doing.

As Dannirae, so rightly says, if your DH is not of the pushy nature needed for handling house sales, then do it yourself. We can't all be perfect and a problem like this should not be a marriage breaker.

My DH travelled a lot on business and I handled all our house moves and I became adept at cultivating estate agents, solicitors etc, It really is hard work but it has to be done. So just go ahead and do it.

I am afraid I would have taken over the negotiations by now! When we last moved my OH was out in Nigeria on business. He left before we had exchanged contracts and came home six weeks later after we had moved! Fortunately we had a brilliant solicitor and excellent removers. Just bite the bullet.

You are fit and well, that's the important thing. Properties are just possessions.

You must know that he's unlikely to change, so, rather than get angry, just make the phone calls on his behalf. If the agent wants to speak with him, hand over the phone.

I hope that you applied to the council for the 'empty home' or 'renovation' reduction in council tax. It's often available.

You do sound rather impatient. I'd always email. OK, it might take a few days - but you have a written record of progress.

I'm sorry to say that my initial reaction is fight the battles that you can win. In other words it sounds to me that he will never be the more pushy person that you want him to be - so accept it and carry on doing all the organising that you have been doing and save yourself all the stress of trying to change someone who is unable to change.
I hope this makes sense?
Good Luck!