Sorry if this post rambles, I can't interfere in this situation but am wondering if I'm worrying needlessly and would welcome others' input. My DIL's 54 year old sister sadly died a week ago last Friday from pancreatic cancer. She had taken the Muslim faith and was buried on the Monday, a very traumatic experience for my DIL and her family. I wasn't there but cannot get out of my head the images my DIL described. The funeral process was over two days and DIL attended both days, including going to the house mixing indoors with many many people. I should say here DS and DIL have two children aged 8 and 5. I do understand DIL is grieving but she seems on a mission to support her BIL and his family at the risk (COVID) of her own family, almost putting them before her own family. Her BIL's sisters have now come to the UK from France & Italy, neither on the safe travel list, it has transpired that both sisters have been taken to see DIL's 86 year old Mum who had COVID earlier this year and now has cancer, so extremely vulnerable. Now DIL has announced she is going for a celebration meal at her BIL's home tonight with various other people and has accused DS of not supporting her because he disapproves. This despite the fact he took unpaid time off work to look after the children (which is a big deal because they are only just getting back on their feet financially from a very long period of struggle) whilst she attended the funeral days and has had to step in at very short notice when she has dropped everything to go to the BIL. She seems to be on a mission to prove she can support everyone in the wider family but without calculating the risks involved to herself and her children and DS. Am I over-thinking all of this, is it a cause for concern with the children's health and DS health? I know if I were to say anything (which I wouldn't, it's not my place) she would say that it makes no difference as the children are going to school, DS is working etc etc.