My husband and I have been caring for our darling grandson who is 3years and 3 months one day a week since he was 9 months old. Initially at the first lockdown we didn't see him for four months other than skype/ what's app, Since September he comes once a week. The last 6 weeks he has become defiant, shouty, slapping, and has told me he hates me, I know hes only going through a phase, but he is so hurtful and we are both finding it difficult to handle him. He is our much wanted and adored first grandchild but don't know what to do. When we took him home ,our daughter in law asked if he'd been good, my husband said he'd been challenging, she the said she can't manage him and is on anti depressants, my husband explained he was concerned for me as I have several health problems and was concerned I would be hurt or suffer another heart attack. My son adores his son and the bond they share is fantastic, however in the beginning a baby wasn't on their agenda, as they were both nearing 40. DIL didn't bond for ages, she is from a weird family where her mother is Queen, and still controls her daughter. I just wonder if my darling grandson dislikes female company? We have said that we would like a break this week, DIL is not working as she lost her job through the current situation, grandson goes to nursery too full days , son works from home most days. Are we being used, unreasonable or do we shut up and carry on? I admit the days when the little one is good are magical, and we go out puddle jumping, football, local play parks etc, this has changed since lockdown so maybe it's because he's bored we have the dreadful behaviour or just growing up? I cannot remember our 3 boys behaving this way but we are oldies now at 68 67 respectively. Advice please . A nanna and grandad who are hurting.
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