I brought a run down property for £700000 in 2014 with a run down barn, my Mum passed away in 2015 leaving my elderly father 80 in a 3 bedroom house alone!
My mum suggested to him before she passed away that he should sell their house and move over to our house and live in a caravan splitting the property money between me and my 4 siblings if she passed away!
He said he wanted to do this after a very lonely year without my mum so I paid for a static caravan for him to move into with his little dog and we agreed to convert the barn into an annex for him!
The agreement was that he would put £50000 into the conversion and we would put the rest of the money into the building creating 2 small bungalows one for him to live in and one for us to rent out!
The conversion took a year so he lived in the caravan bill free for that 1st year his dog pissed on everything in the caravan so we had to rip out all the carpets etc when he moved out so that cost us another chunk of money!
My question is this? We agreed he would live in the building rent free should that also include bill free?
He doesn’t pay anything towards the council tax bill which is £2800 a year he does pay his own electricity as he has a separate supply into his bungalow!
He was getting the tv license free because he is over 75 but he refuses to pay that now as it isn’t free anymore so now we have to pay it.
We also pay all the insurance bills/water bills and the cost of the sewage removal and all the costs involved in maintaining and updating our house and garden!
We live on a private lane we also pay all the costs for filling in pot holes etc in our lane he doesn’t pay towards anything!
The list of things we pay for is endless...
7 years in and every penny we get has been put into our home whilst my Dad gets more money a week than we get between us as my husband also does not work due to health issues!
My health has now also started to deteriorate this last year and I am now struggling to work the same amount of hours to support my husband/house and 2 teenage children so it seems unfair that my Dad gets more money than we do as a family but spends his money down the betting shop whilst we are struggling to keep our heads above water with everything!
Also he didn’t put in the agreed £50,000 he put in £40,000 and he didn’t share the proceeds of his house out he gave my 4 siblings £10,000 each..
We didn’t agree the money he put into our house was my inheritance but he has since decided that it is and he has also decided that any remaining money in his account will be left to my siblings cutting me out of his will because he said we have a property worth more money than there homes!
They have all enjoyed lots of holidays eating out and new cars over the last 7 years whilst we have gone without and they all have better pensions than us!
My question is am I being fair expecting him to contribute towards bills? I asked him for £20 a week but he decided he isn’t paying that and is going to pay £25 a month also his dog has started pissing on walls and doors in the bungalow now so I am annoyed as he won’t pay to mend or replace anything he just denies that his dog has done it!
Help! this is stressing me and my husband right out and now I feel like giving him back his money and telling him to move out but I don’t want to be unreasonable!
What do people here think about my situation?
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