I have an adult son who lives in a different country to me. He became a father very young (20) with a girl who was just a casual relationship. They have stuck together for 10 years and also have another child but it is not a loving relationship. My son and I were close and spoke a couple of times every week for many years. He was quite isolated in his new country and struggled with the language and making friends. He worked in English speaking companies and provided well for his family.
He and the children's mother split up two years ago but remained on good terms to co-parent the children.
My son has a drink problem and would possibly be described as a high functioning alcoholic. I believe he is long term depressed.
He has recently found a new much younger partner (he is 34 she is 21) and has cut himself off from his ex., his children, and me. He does not return any calls and has texted me once, in the past 3 months, when I sent him greeting on his birthday. He is apparently living in his car and not working. He has some money from a recent legacy so could live differently if he chose to.
I am of course extremely worried about him but also concerned that he is no longer communicating with his children or their mother.
I've now sent him a text to say that I am going to leave him to it and not keep trying to speak to him, but would be good to hear from him when he is ready. What else can I do to try and get our family back to some kind of balance?
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