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Dil has no friends.

(56 Posts)
Mollymalone6 Mon 29-Nov-21 22:14:08

Could you not take her out with you to any social activity with friends and family?

Galaxy Mon 29-Nov-21 22:06:25

My dad came from another country in his early twenties, he spoke no English when he arrived, he isnt really one for admitting difficulties, but I remember once him telling me how hard it was and how homesick he was. I think people are right she is scared, I am not sure what else you can do but try to support her.

Hithere Mon 29-Nov-21 22:00:01

I have the feeling that she needs more help that you can give her - the FB idea and her reaction are very telling

What does her husband say to help her acclimate?

How long has she been there?

Is there association of immigrants from her same culture?

Bibbity Mon 29-Nov-21 21:57:24

It sounds like she does want to make friends. But she is afraid. I can't imagine how isolated she must feel. Is there anyone local from the same country as her?

25Avalon Mon 29-Nov-21 21:50:48

How good is her English? Maybe she could join an English class for those whose first language is not English?

kircubbin2000 Mon 29-Nov-21 21:38:26

She always asks me how she can make friends but has not taken my advice. She is from a far eastern country and sometimes it is hard to understand her.
I have suggested a group of foreign women on Facebook but she thinks they will all be lesbians, another group meet in the pub but she doesn't drink. She did try a ukulele group but they were all hippy types.
I'm beginning to think she doesn't really want to make the effort and her latest thought is that everyone is racist.
I don't know what more I can do to help her.