Hen parties

Totally ridiculous- same with baby showers, etc!

Hen and Stag nights / weekends are big business, and prices are, apparently, increasing. There's loads of companies willing to take your hard-earned cash and arrange the venue - complete with T-shirts, funny head-gear, stretch limo's, and strippers for both the hens and the stags.

I wouldn't touch them with a barge-pole.

Your niece should refuse to go - that's a ridiculous amount of money to spend when she's getting married herself shortly. Of course the bridesmaids will put pressure on her - but she shouldn't feel guilty, they'll all still have a good time without her, and she'll have that money for her own wedding. Teach her to say "no" - not easy - but you have to learn not to let people organise your life for you!

Marydoll's DIL's hen do sounds nice!

I wouldn't enjoy something that had cost so much.

It's what they do these days. They find the money because they don't want to be the odd one out. I think it's crazy to almost put friends on a guilt trip to go whether they can afford it or not.

I meant to say that we will be staying for two nights.

My daughter was put in a similar position just before the first lockdown. Despite the fact that she too, was also getting married and couldn't afford it, the organisers put so much pressure on her to go.

I am going to my future DIL's hen do in a couple of weeks.
We are staying in a rented country house with swimming pool and hot tub. It is only a forty minute drive away and the whole thing, including accomodation, food and drink is costing £180. Much more reasonable.

There are country walks nearby and we are planning a murder mystery night, games and Karaoke.

I think Hen parties and hen weekends and holidays abroad are ridiculous and so expensive. What happened to just a night out with the girls. They are getting so complex and expensive for the hens to pay and when my sons ex partner had her hen party booked I asked what she was doing she said ‘I don’t know but everyone will be paying for me’ (They’ve since split up and didn’t get married in the end). I was shocked. My own Daughter refuses to attend hen parties now if it’s away. When it was hers her bridesmaids booked a night away at a local spa with a treatment and a meal included and I paid for my daughter so her hens only paid for themselves.It was a couple of days before she got married. It was lovely. Not expensive and a quiet night away with her friends. In my day I went out for a meal out with friends and paid for myself then we met up with the stags and again a few nights before we got married. I’m probably boring and out of touch now.

I think that is ridiculous ...friend will just have to accept that niece cant afford it. However what is she planning for her own hen party .....similar or something more accessible to people on different levels of income? As presumably the friend whose hen party this one is will also be invited to nieces hen party