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Difficult Neighbour Causing Me Distress

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Absentgrandmother Tue 01-Feb-22 23:06:10

OMG

Thank you for your input. There was another neighbour who had moved out of her house but owned it for a while after leaving, and she often said that she just knew someone had been in her house. She also said that things were missing and was especially upset about inherited items. Everyone thought she was talking rubbish. Now I wonder if that lady was right.

I am really worried now. I wondered if I was being over suspicious but since you all are of similar opinions it looks like I might be on the right track.

I will see if I can get in touch with a PCSO and see what they say.

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Redhead56 Tue 01-Feb-22 23:01:22

Take advice about the security cameras and if possible speak to the other lone female residents. If you all support each other you could make arrangements to discuss this with your PCSO as suggested. If you have support from elsewhere family friends involve them too. The help and advice you need will be more forthcoming if it’s not just you alone. Take care and stay in touch here so we know how you get on.

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Granmarderby10 Tue 01-Feb-22 21:57:57

Sorry all while I agree with the 2 responses both very good and practical suggestions, I just have to say b____y MEN eh

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CanadianGran Tue 01-Feb-22 21:32:50

I would set up a security camera to cover any activity in your front yard or driveway. It could possibly be dementia, but it could also be dangerous to you, so please protect yourself and your property.

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Chewbacca Tue 01-Feb-22 20:59:01

Maybe a phone call to your local PCSO to have a quiet chat? They might already be aware of some of the incidents you mention and could offer you some advice.

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Absentgrandmother Tue 01-Feb-22 20:37:28

I had been in a bad situation with a variety of abuses going on. I was very lacking in confidence as a result. I managed to get myself away from the situation by finding another home.

The first encounter with this neighbour was when I went to view the house. I parked up and he came out and told me I could not park there. I was worried about such a strange initial introduction to the neighbours but I really liked the house and the price.

I moved in and the neighbours seemed friendly. There is another neighbour who told me that she did not get on with that household. I thought I would be best to be friendly with all neighbours.

When lockdown came about there were people sitting outside their houses and talking to anyone who passed by. It all seemed OK

A repair was required that affected several of the neighbours. This difficult neighbour had a workman in who it is likely disrupted stuff.

Another thing this man did was to come out his house if any one was approaching the houses. He also spoke to the regular callers like the postman and window cleaners etc. He did say that he would make life difficult for another lady in the neighbourhood. This was a single lady. The first neighbour who told me she did not get on with that household is a single lady as I am myself a single lady.

Recently I have noticed some damage to my car like tyres deflating, scratches and now stickers have disappeared. One of the other females has also had scratches on her car.

This man does not speak in the passing. His wife is rarely seen now and never seen alone. This man has changed in appearance. He still seems decently dressed but his face looks grey and his expression has changed.

I know a lot of people have been affected in various way by the lockdowns and restrictions. He is over 75. I realise he could be depressed or even starting with dementia but he is still driving. With 3 lone females being targeted by him and his wife never being seen without him I wonder if he could be bullying women. Another senior elderly lone female has changed in her treatment of the 3 lone females. I am not happy with the change in atmosphere in the locality. I would be horrified if he is being abusive to his wife and attempting to be abusive with 3 unrelated females.

What would you think of this situation and what would you do in these circumstances?

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