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They thought my DH was drunk

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Bridgeit Thu 10-Mar-22 11:17:17

Yes , just pop around to ‘ put them in the picture’ hopefully they will be of some support & understanding. Best wishes

JaneJudge Thu 10-Mar-22 11:10:31

Quite Iam64. We have a similar neighbour. We would help if he had fallen too.

JaneJudge Thu 10-Mar-22 11:09:18

Surely most people know these days it could be something medical, like diabetes hypo angry
Go and tell them. Bloody idiots

Iam64 Thu 10-Mar-22 11:09:00

Even if he had been drunk, what a disgusting way to behave. I would tell the neighbours and ask them to phone your mobile if it happens again.
They don’t sound like good neighbours. We have a man living on our road who is an alcoholic. He goes to the supermarket daily to fill his backpack with alcohol and is often seen drinking some as he walks home. My husband has picked him up several times after falls and driven him home. Other neighbours have helped regularly. I can’t imagine anyone being unkind or leaving him lying on the floor.

FannyCornforth Thu 10-Mar-22 11:07:05

Hmm, yes, you could be right Grandmabatty
They do sound horrible.

Grandmabatty Thu 10-Mar-22 11:04:48

Fanny if they are as horrible as they seem, then the chances are they wouldn't believe op.

FannyCornforth Thu 10-Mar-22 11:02:44

Even if a person was drunk; it was a childish, cruel and dangerous thing to do

silverlining48 Thu 10-Mar-22 10:28:52

Menieres, or dreadful vertigo, can look as if someone is drunk, After I had a bad attack a lifelong friend would not be persuaded it was a medical condition and always believed that I was a drunk. This really affected our friendship (and not in a good way.).
It’s very difficult but on balance I would speak to the neighbours. Most people are kinder than my erstwhile Friend,

Blossoming Thu 10-Mar-22 10:26:56

Flashing lights at somebody is a dangerous thing to do. I would definitely have words with them,

FannyCornforth Thu 10-Mar-22 10:23:09

What a horrid experience, your poor husband.
I would want to tell the neighbours too. I don’t agree with Grandmabatty; I don’t think that they will think that you are ‘covering’ for him.
It was a pretty awful thing for them to do.

Grandmabatty Thu 10-Mar-22 10:18:58

I'm not sure,to be honest. They might think that you're covering up for him, depending on their point of view. I wouldn't want to speak to neighbours who had been so judgemental anyway. On the other hand, I might engineer a 'bumped into conversation where I let slip dh's condition and how difficult it made life for him as people misunderstood. They might not believe that either though. Are you close to other neighbours who could mention your husband in passing?

dogsmother Thu 10-Mar-22 10:17:21

Don’t explain anymore than he has a medical condition and if you know these people perhaps ask them if perhaps they could offer assistance if they see him until it is resolved. Even if if this means offering your phone number to call you.
It’s a sad fact that people don’t understand and assume the worst.

Oldnproud Thu 10-Mar-22 10:16:18

In your position, I would be tempted to go and explain to them, and ask that if they see him like that again to call you right away and perhaps even offer to help him if possible.

lavendermine Thu 10-Mar-22 10:15:13

I am so sorry to read about your husband and the undiagnosed condition he is suffering from.
If it were me I would certainly call on your neighbours and explain the situation.

Bankhurst Thu 10-Mar-22 10:12:14

My DH has an as-yet-undiagnosed medical problem which means when out in cold weather he sometimes suffers a collapse and can barely walk. Yesterday evening this happened, and he’d forgotten his phone so couldn’t call me to rescue him in the car.
He staggered home and new neighbours a few doors away whom I have not yet met, began singing ‘show me the way to go home’ and flashing car lights at him, presumably because they thought he was drunk. He felt too ill to respond, and trudged home.
Of course they didn’t know the circumstances, but there are many conditions which make people stagger, and I want to go and explain to them what really happened.
My DH says to leave it. What do gransnetters think?