To talk to kids about this

This all took me back to travelling in Korea 50 years ago - such a lovely vibrant country with noisy, friendly people, lots of music and dancing and such a contrast to Japan where we were then living. It also took me back to 1990 and my daughter and friends getting ready at out house to go to the Rocky Horror Show about which I knew nothing.. What a shock, fishnet tights, a bustiere, black rimmed eyes and bright red lipstick, and that was just the one lad who was accompanying a gaggle of 15 year old girls to the show in central London. Girls in mini waitress outfits and torn tights, tiny skirts and not much else, coloured hair and heavy eye makeup. I was glad my husband was out of town but I wished they hadn’t chosen my house to complete this transformation and I felt responsible and anxious for their safety while trying to show none of my feelings. Of course they had a wonderful time and arrived back safely and on Monday morning were back in their school uniforms with faces scrubbed and hair it’s original colour. . Japanese teens wanted to look like Americans I recollect. It’s all part of growing up and exploring their place in the world.

How is it racist? Lots of Asians eat odd things.

The most outrageous thing I did was put a wicked poster of Jimi Hendrix on my wall. My mother nearly had a fit which I loved! Other than that I was just a dolly bird, short skirt and fake tan but nothing weird. Then there were rockers, mods, punks, goths, Ziggies, new romantics and goodness knows what else. All youngsters like to be part of the youth culture of their era and this is no different. So just express some disapproval to keep her happy and all will be well.

endel3, the best thing about being a grandmother - is letting their parents worry and just enjoying their company - not that it's anything to worry about. 12 year old girls are usually obsessed with something. With my GD it's horses, her friend a certain singer.

(mokryna, you can have my poker-straight hair - I'm sick to death of trying to make it hold a curl - or even a wave.)

Do nothing. Her mother isn’t worried, so why on earth would you be?

It’s just a phase....

It’ll run it’s course. My granddaughter is into anime and she tries to explain this to me goes over my head. She even dresses up like it for conventions. This too will pass.

Well you probably eat cows pigs sheep and lovely dancing lambs Sago no difference all living breathing animals ?

What does it matter what people eat. So long as they're not sitting you down and making you eat it, what business is it if ours?

Sago

endel13 Please tell me what was racist about my remark.

The stereotype that Asians eat dogs.
The stereotype didn’t even come from Korea, I believe.

endel13 Please tell me what was racist about my remark.

My DD spent a year being a dog!!

Thanks for the responses x

Sago

When she discovers they eat dogs she may change her mind.

Erm.. This wasn’t an invitation to be racist.

When she discovers they eat dogs she may change her mind.

snowberryZ

These days, as long as you feel like something, you become it. Apparently.

ButI agree it's ridiculous and hopefully just a phase.
It's impossible to change race.
Just as its impossible to change sex.

Why don’t you come off that ark and enjoy the beautiful weather?

Oh I don't think you should say anything about this. Just leave it to her parents. I just say to myself now that the responsibility is no longer mine. This means I can relax. The way I see it is up to my children to raise the next generation as best they can. I have had my turn. I am sure your granddaughter will move through this where there are no strong reactions to her current style.

snowberry
These days, as long as you feel like something, you become it. Apparently.

ButI agree it's ridiculous and hopefully just a phase.
It's impossible to change race.
Just as its impossible to change sex.
Your remark "just as it's impossible to chance sex* is disgraceful and ignorant. And I would say transphobic.

I would just take it with a pinch of salt at that age. When my youngest son was 12 he wanted to open a cafe with me doing all the cooking! Thank goodness he grew out of that one or there could have been a few people with belly ache!

A friend of mine (in the UK) has a grand daughter who became obsessed with all things American at about that age and went around for about 6 months faking an American accent (badly!) When asked why, she insisted that she wasn't. It all faded away gradually though. Kids go through these weird phases.

I had little imagination so just settled into who I was (am). Plus I was never a rebel. Too timid and conformist. Maybe a bit boring but at least I didn’t tie myself in knots hoping to be someone I wasn’t (nor ever likely to be).

I remember what that feels like As a wee girl I longed to be a Mexican beauty with pale skin and jet black eyes and be called Senorita Rosita.

"A white British influencer and singer has defended "identifying as Korean" after having what they have described as "racial transitional surgery"."
news.sky.com/story/oli-london-british-influencer-defends-identifying-as-korean-after-surgery-to-look-like-bts-star-12344765

At least she won't be able to get this done at 12, ende13.

You could recommend Duolingo to her, to learn Korean.
www.duolingo.com/course/ko/en/Learn-Korean

When I was little we had a blonde girl in the class. She had the most beautiful Ash blonde hair, delicaye features and the beautiful bright blue eyes that go with it.
We were so jealous.
But we were never going to look like her in a month or Sundays as most of us had brown eyes and brown hair (welsh colouring)

We always want what's different.

These days, as long as you feel like something, you become it. Apparently.

ButI agree it's ridiculous and hopefully just a phase.
It's impossible to change race.
Just as its impossible to change sex.

oh, for goodness sake!!