A like button?

Add the stamping feet and I would guess and eight-year old.

Do you realise that Troll hunting is against GN rules and they see people saying others have gathered togther off line as just that?

I will express an opinion if I like Daisyanne.

Vintagejazz

I don't think it happens all of the time, or even frequently. Most gransnetters are too mature and decent to behave like that.

It happens occasionally and is spiteful and bullying behaviour that people should have grown out of decades ago.

"People" should also have grown out of putting forward unsupported opinions and expecting them to be treated as fact. They haven't though. They teach the difference in junior schools now. Other "People" find that both arrogant and rude.

I agree with you Volver. Occasionally by the tone of some comments I’ve wondered whether we are really mature women or school kids, but I move on.

I don't think it happens all of the time, or even frequently. Most gransnetters are too mature and decent to behave like that.

It happens occasionally and is spiteful and bullying behaviour that people should have grown out of decades ago.

Maybe it just doesn't happen as much as you think it does.

And maybe it leads people to think its happening all the time. When it's not. Maybe a poster is just talking rubbish and there are many people who disagree with them. People who generally agree with each other quite often so appear on similar threads with similar messages.

I'm sorry if you've been accused wrong Volver. But that doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

I have been accused of following people around to argue with them. I have been accused of PMing others to get them to come and pile on other people. I have been accused of having it in for people. None of it was true. Some people think everyone is out to get them in a big nasty gang.

I was also piled on. I temporarily left the site and I went and made a cup of tea.

FannyCornforth

I think that solution in that situation is to get rid of the bullies.

If posters are so scared of bullies that they won’t even comment on here, it’s an extremely sad state of affairs

This point I really agree with. When you are constantly shot down or even ridiculed it can be quite disconcerting, especially if you feel a group is going after you.
Personally it's water off a ducks back to me,I will still have my say. After battling in an aggressive environment for years at work ,I have the confidence to say what I think but a lot of people don't and feel they are being bullied.
I think it would lead to factions and people leaving the site.

volver

No.

I think that people use the platform at the same time as other people. So its likely that poster A is using the platform at the same time as Poster B. And that there are groups of people who agree with each other. So the people who like Greggs Sausage rolls all support and agree with each other, and the people who think they are the work of the devil also support and agree with each other.

But if you (you in general, not you in particular) think that anybody who disagrees with you is out to get you, and is hunting you down, and is calling on all their friends to do the same, I guess there is nothing anybody can say to dissuade you from that. If you expect everyone to be nice all the time and never disagree with anybody else, when when they are talking rubbish, then that's not going to happen.

No one expects everyone to agree with them all the time, and that is not what I said. The fact that you haven't noticed something doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Just that you've either been fortunate not to have been on the receiving end of it, or robust enough not to take any particular notice.

I wish there was a 'let's just agree to disagree' button.

Vintagejazz

Well then you're very innocent Volver. And it's all very we saying ignore it, but posters have feelings.

Of course they/we do; but aren’t those feelings also going to be hurt by lots of ‘dislikes’ or no ‘likes’, or lots of ‘likes’ of the post that disagrees with their own?

On a discussion board, people need to discuss things, if the board is going to continue. If you give an opinion, some will agree and others disagree. That’s just how it works, just as in other areas of life.

If you don’t take part, you don’t risk being disagreed with, but you can’t expect to get to agree or disagree with others either. Not unless you expect everyone else to risk disagreement by posting, whilst you just sit and watch, but can add your own agree/disagree thoughts on their posts. Isn’t this an entitled way of thinking, to say the least?

No.

I think that people use the platform at the same time as other people. So its likely that poster A is using the platform at the same time as Poster B. And that there are groups of people who agree with each other. So the people who like Greggs Sausage rolls all support and agree with each other, and the people who think they are the work of the devil also support and agree with each other.

But if you (you in general, not you in particular) think that anybody who disagrees with you is out to get you, and is hunting you down, and is calling on all their friends to do the same, I guess there is nothing anybody can say to dissuade you from that. If you expect everyone to be nice all the time and never disagree with anybody else, when when they are talking rubbish, then that's not going to happen.

If they all coincidentally follow you around the forum appearing on exactly the same threads at the same time Volver, do you not think there is some communication going on?

me innocent

I've been on the receiving end of a pile on that thought it was funny to make fun of me. I never for one minute thought they were all PMing each other frantically round the back of the bike sheds. I just thought they were inadequate old women who had nothing better to do with their time.

If that makes we innocent, then I'm glad of that.

Vintagejazz

Well then you're very innocent Volver. And it's all very we saying ignore it, but posters have feelings.

Some are not robust enough to ignore it. It is awful to be on the receiving end.

Like.

Well then you're very innocent Volver. And it's all very we saying ignore it, but posters have feelings.

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I always see the value of giving my opinions, doodledog

Because I've seen it happen Lucca. A confronts B about a rude post. Then, wherever A posts for the rest of the day the same 3 or 4 posters appear sneering and disagreeing with her.

Very childish and spiteful.

Vintagejazz

Lucca

Bullies apparently are those who ask for more information or who challenge misinformation.

Anyway it is all academic as no changes are ever made !!

No, bullies are people who post in ways that are rude, abusive or sneery. They are also posters who pm each other and rally a gang to go after anyone who has dared to challenge them about their rudeness like a swarm of angry wasps.

Rally a gang ? Goodness how on earth can you know that ?!

MissAdventure

If I spelled out what I thought and gave examples, it would result in this thread being deleted, doodledog (which is probably what will ultimately end up happening, anyway)

Ah. You mean about like buttons in particular. I thought you meant you didn’t see the value of giving your opinions in general, which didn’t make sense.

Vintagejazz

I like both Chestnut's and Doodledog's posts, even though they're directly contradicting each other.

I rest my case .

If I spelled out what I thought and gave examples, it would result in this thread being deleted, doodledog (which is probably what will ultimately end up happening, anyway)