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Old woman!

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Gongoozler Mon 06-Jun-22 15:17:02

I’d like to think I would have said “I am an old woman who is keeping you in a job”, but I’d probably just have kept quiet and thought “how rude!” and just fumed inside.

Hithere Mon 06-Jun-22 15:14:53

You are giving

Hithere Mon 06-Jun-22 15:13:38

It is about the implied significance you are to a word

What if they had said " there's someone at the till, an young / middle aged / blonde/ etc woman/man'" - would that offend anybody

Doodledog Mon 06-Jun-22 15:00:06

nobody would say that!

Doodledog Mon 06-Jun-22 14:59:40

So is 'There's a fat bloke with bad breath and a funny hat at the till', but nobody old say that, would they?

Why not? Because there are things about all of us that may be true but we don't need pointing out. It's about not making people feel bad, is all. (And yes, I know that not everybody sees old age as something that makes them feel bad; but none of us can possibly know who does and who doesn't, so good manners dictates that personal comments are not polite.)

Baggs Mon 06-Jun-22 14:53:57

How is it dismissive? It's a description.

aquagran Mon 06-Jun-22 14:53:12

Sometimes people aren’t aware they are being rude, or forget!

Kate1949 Mon 06-Jun-22 14:03:32

Charming angry

midgey Mon 06-Jun-22 14:03:12

But was the cleaner factually correct? I’m not at all old….I’m only 74!

AGAA4 Mon 06-Jun-22 14:02:19

I am old, mid seventies, and I am quite happy to be this age but I don't think anyone should use age to describe someone.
Would she have said 'there's a middle aged man at the till'.
As others have said it is rude.

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 06-Jun-22 13:53:07

Very rude and totally unnecessary. What’s wrong with just saying ‘someone’? Your age and gender are irrelevant. You were a person requiring service.

Doodledog Mon 06-Jun-22 13:49:48

It's dismissive, and (IMO) rude.

It's not that being old is anything to be ashamed of - it is that someone else is choosing which aspect of your personality/self should define you, and no-one has right to do that (particularly a stranger).

Bodach Mon 06-Jun-22 13:25:29

I don't know about you lot, but I positively embrace my aged (mid-70's) status. Being called "old" doesn't bother me at all. If I were being referred to as "silly old" or "ugly old" or even "miserable old", then I would probably object to the first part, but not the second - which I bear with considerable pride, satisfaction and a smidgen of surprise at having made it thus far...

BlueBelle Mon 06-Jun-22 13:07:47

I was tootling along on my cycle one day when a group of young lads called out ‘Look at granny on her bike’ I was close to getting off and giving them a tongue lashing but carried on as if I hadn’t heard a thing

FannyCornforth Mon 06-Jun-22 13:05:51

How rude. There’s rude people everywhere.
No reflection on you.
Don’t let them make you feel bad about yourself.

I was called an old woman by some kids (12 years old or thereabouts) when I was 32!
And they weren’t even being rude!
One of them was about to ride into me outside the shops:
‘Watch that old woman!’

timetogo2016 Mon 06-Jun-22 13:05:29

She`s just ignorant,don`t give it/her a second thought kircubbin2000.

kircubbin2000 Mon 06-Jun-22 12:58:12

I'm disgusted this morning. I went down to the small supermarket and no one was manning the tills. I looked around and asked the cleaner where they all were. She shouted down the shop ' there's someone at the till, an old woman!' That's nice I said but she didn't apologise.
So that's how others see us.