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Dressing gown all day?!

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GagaJo Thu 23-Jun-22 14:48:49

In an entirely unrelated/related issue. I teach online and one of my students has a father who at times wanders into view wearing nothing but his underpants.

I can see my student is embarrassed, so I pretend I am busy in our shared document, and that I haven't seen it.

His dad is easy on the eye though. I don't mind at all!

GagaJo Thu 23-Jun-22 14:47:25

Could you take a screen shot and show her how it looks? Explain it isn't good for your clients / students and could actually get you into trouble / lose business.

If she can't get it, you might have to tell her its a choice between getting dressed OR staying upstairs for as long as you've got your camera on.

Cabbie21 Thu 23-Jun-22 14:43:27

Does she understand that she can be seen ? Not ideal.
Does she need to enter that room?
Could you reposition your Laptop so she cannot walk behind you?
Ideally it needs you to solve the problem in these circumstances.

Hithere Thu 23-Jun-22 14:42:44

What app do you use for tele calls?
Pretty much all of them offer backgrounds you can use instead of showing your home

Hithere Thu 23-Jun-22 14:41:04

How about getting your own office - closed room in your home?

Elizabeth27 Thu 23-Jun-22 14:36:06

Baring in mind what she has gone through and still is I think it would be petty to dictate what she wears.

Peacelily321 Thu 23-Jun-22 14:33:45

I have a lady from Ukraine staying with me since two weeks back and she is lovely. I am helping her with English and generally encouraging her to make friends, find local resources, and set herself up to be confident again. One thing is bugging me however and it's the amount of dressing gown wearing that's happening. I'm talking ALL day! I have to work from home so I'm back on the dining room table and I have video calls for part of the day. I've explained this to her, both in English and Ukranian, and she is aware of the video camera and other people's line of sight but that hasn't stopped her from wandering around in a thigh-high leopard print satin dressing gown!
It's happened two days in a row now; she's spent all day in her dressing gown and hasn't got dressed until 4pm. I know it's early days, and it must be difficult to live with someone working from home but I did pre-warn her this is how my life is.
So I'm asking you to help me sense-check this one. If the dressing gown thing continues, am I in my rights to have a firmer word with her and ask her to get dressed into proper clothes if she's coming downstairs during the day?