My aunt, who helped bring me up and was like my 2nd mother, died last year and left her house to me and my 2 siblings. I am genuinely devastated by her death and an old friend who I have kept in intermittent touch withwas very sympathetic in the weeks after the death, assured me she would be there for me etc but then only seemed to text me to find out about the house, when it was going on the market etc as her daughter was looking for that type of house in that area.
I told her when we hoped to be in a position to sell but made it clear we needed to put it on the market as one of my siblings in particular needed the money due to various issues. I was apologetic and said I really wished we could offer to her daughter at a low price. I did, however, say her daughter could have a look around the house before it went up, just with her husband, no family or estate agent hanging around.
Friend seemed to understand, but her texts stopped completely, and v
when I made contact felt I got a polite brush off.
We are now about to put the house up for sale and I texted the friend to let her know. She replied that her daughter has gone sale agreed on another house. It was a polite text but no suggestion we meet up or anything.
That's fair enough. No reason why the daughter should wait, or not look at other houses. Just as we were under no obligation to offer her the house at a bargain.
However I feel a bit sad that my friend seemed to just see me as an opportunity for her daughter, and to lose any interest in keeping in touch once she knew that wasn't going to happen.
"Bunking off" school as a child.