Trying to convince my dd that she's not being unreasonable!
Her relationship with her partners family has never been great, but civil mostly.
Since they had children the in laws plus aunty look after the eldest one day a week.
Never do as asked regarding eating, sleeping or behaviour management. Have been caught out lying a few times about their care of the child.
Latest issue is the aunty openly admitting that she showed the 2yr old child her boobs, at least twice that we know of.
Not in a changing room situation, but at home for no reason. Plus she's said a few odd and inappropriate things.
She lives at home, 30yrs old, no job, friends etc. No she's not got any special needs etc just to clarify
So if the child goes to the grandparents she's there too
So my dd and partner stopped the visits there, unless the are there too.
Recently they completely spoiled his bd, caused a huge row in front of him. Shouting mostly at my dd that she's stopping them seeing him (she's not, just not on their own)
Now she's feeling guilty as they stormed off telling the child they will see him when his parents allow. No contact since, except sly messages on social media aimed at dd.
She's contemplating getting in touch.
I've said leave them to sort themselves out and come to them as the parents. If she backs down I feel her life will be made even worse by the in laws.
We are very close, I care for the child when she's in work, more days than them, but have done since he was born.
I hate how they have treated her over the years and this is just the straw that broke the back. I've kept silent, never contacted them even tho I've been desperate to.
I agree he needs to see his grandparents but they constantly overstep boundaries and are downright wrong in some circumstances.
I don't think it's unreasonable to be concerned about the behaviour and then to shout and belittle my dd and their own son in their home, especially on a special day
I completely get that child should see grandparents but I'm not sure what the answer is here.
Going after the economically disadvantaged!
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