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I despair of my fellow husbands sometimes.

It is unfortunate and I can see why you are angry, however, the race cannot be moved and it sounds like it is important for your husband to be there.

Could you hire a car?

Would not be impressed is he usually this self obsessed. I would tell him not to bother coming on the holiday and take the car yourself. Hardly going to be a holiday if he is rushing backwards and forwards apart from the extra fuel cost

He should hire a car.
Thoughtless, to say the least.

He could run home and leave you the car!

Clearly you are not on the same page - is this the first time it happens?
Did he confirm the original plans and now changed his mind?

Either way
1. You need to decide if you want to change your plans

If no, why doesn't he go and you stay home with the kids?

If yes, the bigger issue is why you accomodate him when he seems not to care about your needs and wants

Either way, the original plan to take of the gc has changed.

Check with the parents if the new conditions work for them as they need time to make other babysitting arrangements.

www.gransnet.com/forums/aibu/1309059-Husband-Gambling

Has he stopped gambling?

grumppa

I despair of my fellow husbands sometimes.

😂😂😂

I know. Mine left me stranded in Devon with three children because, apparently, he had an important work meeting in the middle of our holiday 😲

Very good question Hithere seems a much more important question than this one
Basically between the two threads you don’t get on do you SuzieWakie perhaps best to call it a day

Having said what I did above, I must confess that I attended a tax meeting during our honeymoon in Paris. But there were perks for both of us: travel expenses paid, and a night at the Moulin Rouge.

My second husband was a retained foreman and got a call out about an hour before our wedding time He did manage to get back in the nick of time but it was very very tight 😂😂😂

firemen used to have to do that too.
now firefighters also lifeboat crew have to run to a call, wedding or not.
service before self, as they say.
(i know it was a typo...)

No you are not being unreasonable and I agree with rosie's suggestion if you can. Take the car and go without him.

Presumably if Susiewakie wanted to talk about or seek advice on a subject she posted about over a year ago Hithere she'd have done so. Not sure what point if any, you're trying to make posting a link to an old thread.

grumppa

Having said what I did above, I must confess that I attended a tax meeting during our honeymoon in Paris. But there were perks for both of us: travel expenses paid, and a night at the Moulin Rouge.

I've had a few nice holidays whilst DH was attending 'conferences' grumppa!

But not as exotic as the Moulin Rouge! 😁 💃

rosie1959

Would not be impressed is he usually this self obsessed. I would tell him not to bother coming on the holiday and take the car yourself. Hardly going to be a holiday if he is rushing backwards and forwards apart from the extra fuel cost

Totally agree!

I would probably suggest he just stays behind to be honest OR if it's not more than a couple of hours drive away that he comes back gently to you after the race is over.
That way you are only stranded for an afternoon and evening.

Theexwife

It is unfortunate and I can see why you are angry, however, the race cannot be moved and it sounds like it is important for your husband to be there.

Could you hire a car?

Or could HE hire a car, as its quite possible there are child seats in theirs. Or he could use public transport!

Hithere

www.gransnet.com/forums/aibu/1309059-Husband-Gambling

Has he stopped gambling?

Oh dear, he's a gambler and then takes on a new race at his club, and needs to leave a trip away with the GC to oversee this race....
*RED FLAGS* *RED FLAGS*
Susiewakie,
Seriously, WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE, something is going on here!!!
Check your bank accounts fervently!!

And check female friends, too!!