About my neighbour ?

Kate1949

Looking at bins wouldn't bother me unless they had food hanging out or something. We out the bins back for our 95 year old neighbour. She regularly phones us to say they are an inch or two away from where she likes them.

This made me laugh! She must feel very at ease with you Kate1949, which is kind of nice.

You must look young and strong if he thinks you can move those bins.
I have an ongoing irritation with the bins belonging to the flats next door to me.
There are about 30 wheelie bins left either on the pavement or/and lining our shared driveway.
I have complained to the council and the factor for the flats but nothing has changed.
I don't have to look at them all day but they are an ugly eyesore and attract vermin.
I hope someone else will take action but they only seem to bother me.
The flats have a dedicated bin store but noone uses it. It's easier to leave them out.

Another neighbour is at war with her other neighbour over something else and has decided to move house! This saddens me.

crazyH

Give him a wide berth annsixty - the cancer, the treatment and all that goes with a serious illness, is probably getting to him.
Just to keep the peace, can your young GD, move the bin ? That will keep everyone happy (except your GD😂)

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Although not an excuse, apart from the suffering the disease itself causes, the treatment for prostate cancer can have absolutely dreadful side effects. I suspect he realised as he was speaking that he was out of order and that's why he mentioned the prostate cancer. He may also have a terminal prognosis which won't help his social demeanour. Maybe cut him some slack.

I’m sorry you’ve been upset ann. The things folk stress about, of course he could just sit elsewhere.

A decent neighbour would have asked if he could move them for you to their usual space. No, of course you’re not being unreasonable. Forgive him if it was just a bad day. Should he say it again suggest with your sweetest smile that he move them for you as of course he knows it would be too much for you. You’ll be prepared if he comments again, this one was an unwelcome surprise and therefore upsetting.

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Callistemon21

They're not on his land and they're not blocking his drive.

He will have to sit elsewhere for his brekkie.

Tell him that lounging on the sofa in pj’s eating cornflakes while watching Good Morning is the in thing nowadays 😄
Well, it is in our house.

I'm too busy doing Wordle to look out of the window!
Starter word is usually something I can see in front of me, there are lots of brekkie-related five letter words 😃

Callistemon21

They're not on his land and they're not blocking his drive.

He will have to sit elsewhere for his brekkie.

Tell him that lounging on the sofa in pj’s eating cornflakes while watching Good Morning is the in thing nowadays 😄
Well, it is in our house.

kittylester

As well as the stickers mentioned above, you can get these.

Wheelie Bin Cover Clematis Nelly Moser 002 amzn.eu/d/9kTe7Kk

I like that but £25!

He does not know how lucky he is that you have them on your own land. In our cul-de-sac our neighbour does not even take his bins off the street and he has extra bins because of a large family. The drive is so full of rubbish they cannot take the bins in . Even worse because he is building an extension, which is taking forever, they have their clothes whirly thing in the front garden . We came home the other day and there was a Google street view van filming our bit of road grey washing and all . All private houses so we can do nothing .

annsixty. You’re 86 with mobility problems putting bins out on your own property. He is still able to get out and about and play golf. I would tell him to stick the bins where the sun doesn’t shine. If he was really bothered by it he could have asked you nicely if you minded him putting your bins back for you!!!!

If the bins are on your land and within your boundary line, it's none of his business where you keep them. If he's THAT offended he can close the curtains! I would tell him it's too much of a struggle for you because of mobility so they will need to stay where they are.

As well as the stickers mentioned above, you can get these.

Wheelie Bin Cover Clematis Nelly Moser 002 amzn.eu/d/9kTe7Kk

They're not on his land and they're not blocking his drive.

He will have to sit elsewhere for his brekkie.

This really isn’t your problem Annsixty and I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better about it now. He’s a grump, probably because of his treatment but he personably told you about that so you wouldn’t invite him to move them! 😂

an immovable breakfast chair
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I hope you're feeling better now, annsixty

I too would have smiled, laughed, sympathised and suggested that if fancied doing the moving of the bins he could.
Yes I would find it very unreasonable to move them for his convenience.

Oh dear! These things matter you know 😁

Indeed Callistemon. She phoned recently and said would I please ask my husband to put her garden bin directly up against her back gate, not two inches away from it. I won't say what his reaction was. Still she's 95 and worries about these things.

Give him a wide berth annsixty - the cancer, the treatment and all that goes with a serious illness, is probably getting to him.
Just to keep the peace, can your young GD, move the bin ? That will keep everyone happy (except your GD😂)

If the bins are on your property your neighbour has no right to object where you place your bins ; they are not obstructing access or light. I think he is simply grumpy, which may be due to his prostate problem, or simply grumpiness.
If he had suggested he moved them for you, fair enough, but not to expect you to do so because the sight of them offends him.
Silly man.

No, you are not being unreasonable.
He may well be feeling frustrated about missing the golf, but that's not an excuse to be rude to you - or to your bins! You did very well to keep cool.
Deep breath.

Suggest that he plants a hedge or puts u some kind of trellis.

I would give him permission to move the bin and then ask your GD for help putting your rubbish out..

Thank you all for your views and your very kind words and thoughts.
I am getting over it now.
He does not live alone he has a wife and gets out a lot normally so he is not lonely or bored.
He is a very keen golfer as is his wife.
He is probably very frustrated at not getting to the club whilst having his treatment.
That I can understand.

Oh for crying out loud if that s all that’s wrong in the neighbourhood Tell hi,m to shut his eyes and pretend he’s on a desert island on bin day What a tosspot