About my neighbour ?

I have a neighbour with an obsession about bins, drains and rubbish. I wont bother going into the details. We had several stand up rows before I finaly told her to go forth and multiply. Then I got a ring type door bell and just stopped answering the door to her. She came out ready for a whinge and couldnt get an answer. Her evident frustration gave me a great deal of amusement.

He needs curtains.

I am amazed at all the tolerant replies😂 He is being a total ** in my opinion! your bins are on your property and none of his business

If it bothers him so much suggest he moves your bins as it’s too much for you to do it
That should silence him

Best post by LondonMzFitz - “Men. Um.” 😂

Cheeky cf. If it bothers him he can take your bins in and out for you.

You are not being unreasonable; he is. You are entitled to put your bins anywhere on your own property and he has no-one he can complain to. You can carry on putting the bins where it's easier for you to cope with them and moving around them. He has no grounds for complaint and if he goes on bothering you, you could justifiably accuse him of harassment. If there's still such a being as a neighbourhood police officer, they could have a word in his ear!

Beechnut

We had something similar annsixty with our neighbour. Our daughters small camper van was parked up our drive permanently as it had something wrong with it. She came out one day and totally ranted to DH about being able to see it from her kitchen window. Good job she didn’t have the view I had as it was right in front of our window. Camper stayed put I’m afraid.
If it’s easier for you leave the bins where they are. It’s much easier to move a chair!

There is difference here. Whereas there is not likeley to be any direction as to where to put your bins, many house deeds do prohibit the parking or storing of caravans on house drives.

Annsixty this is bullying, pure and simple.
I hope he feels ashamed of himself (but suspect he won’t) if he ever asks you for a favour.
For now, try to ignore him. And on NO account go out of your way to screen your bins or move them - what he looks at is his problem.

In which case Mr Next Door should do it. He is the one with the problem.

Is there any room to screen off the bins either with potted plants or a screen? Just a thought that might work and cheer everyone up.

welbeck, maybe it depends on where you live - but the council binmen do help my friend's mum. She signed up for their disabled service.

They move her bin (and the recycling bins) quite a long way, through her front garden and down the side of her house to their 'home' next to her side door, where she keeps them. They also collect them from there - so it must be about 150 feet in total.

Tell him to bugger off. Your bins on your property.

I’d hate to look out of my window and see a load of bins, so I sympathise with the neighbour. however, he could have politely offered to move the bins for you as he is bothered by them.

This made me sad for you Ann, it’s very unreasonable for him to demand that you move the bins, we all know it’s not a nice sight but he should have offered to move them. I have zero sympathy with his “cancer” diagnosis, my husband lived for nine years with prostate cancer, terminal from day one, we just didn’t know how long. He never once used it to beat anyone with, despite a horrible series of events due to the cancer. If he wants to move them with your permission, so be it. Otherwise, jog on.

kwest

If your ring your local council and ask, they will collect your bins and put them back after emptying them. This should solve your problem and keep the neighbour happy too.

This is what I did when I could no longer manage the bins. It worked very well, even though they had to take them up and down my long drive. They got a good tip at Christmas!

I can see both sides. Tricky. Presumably this is a recent problem and you used to keep them elsewhere?Could you go back to leaving them in the original place and ask him or someone he lives with to take your bins out for you and put them back? This is what we do with our neighbours!

I appreciate that your granddaughter lives a busy life, but to avoid any unpleasantness, surely she could move the bins.

He was being unreasonable and I'm sorry it has upset you
I can see lots of my neighbours bins, it hadn't occurred to me to get irritated by them

LondonMzFitz

I think it's his attitude that would anger/irritate me. A knock with a polite - I'm so sorry to ask, but would it be possible to - " etc would be much more appropriate. I wouldn't dream of asking a neighbour to move her bins because they spoiled my view. The imagined entitlement of some people.

In my previous home I shared a drive with my neighbour, luckily we got on very well. Further up the street were a number of maisonettes (flats upstairs and downstairs), of course each with a car so the road was full of vehicles. Two neighbours, both in their 40's, had a running dispute about one neighbours girlfriends car which was always parked in front of the bins, a row that escalated into a 3am on a Sunday morning stabbing, leaving one of the men dead and the other serving 18 years for manslaughter (me first on the scene, 2 days at The Old Bailey giving evidence). I find I get very anxious now about neighbourhood relationships.

Even my lovely neighbour had his moments - I did a first cut of the year on my front lawn (wet spring, long grass, first dryish day) .. he knocked on my door to ask if my lawnmower was broken. "No", I replied, a little puzzled as I know he'd seen me cutting the grass... "Well", he said, "you haven't done a very good job, have you"?

Lovely neighbour the other side would complain to me that he couldn't put petunia's in his front garden because all the slugs from my garden would eat them. I always thought slugs were, you know, free range.

Men. Um.

I think he is being unreasonable, there is no way that you can move the bins yourself. He could easily sit on the other side of the table.
Just ignore him.

There are actually 4 bins and to fence them in would mean I couldn’t get to the back of my house.
If I stack them down the side against his wall abutting my boundary I can’t walk past them.
Th only answer is for them to go down the path , through the gate and into my back garden.
I am not physically capable of doing this.
Yes my GD can do it but that would mean from 7pm Thursday evening until 7pm on Friday they they will be on the pavement.
I think that would annoy him more as he would be able to see them fully instead of having to go to the extreme edge of his small bay windows to peer.
Sitting anywhere in his sitting room apart from the left hand side chair in the bay window where they have their dining table there is absolutely no view of my bins.

While he has no right to ask you to move your bin, it maybe just something that is aggravating him and he had to voice it. Why not find a compromise that suits both of you. The bins stay but can be brightened up by stickers as someone already suggested - and don't know if someone already said it, why not put up a little wooden "wall" around your bin, it also will protect it from the elements somewhat.

And I agree that the cancer treatment might make him more irritable. Maybe the finds it more and more difficult to come to terms with his diagnosis.

If you were to use a fence, how about this?

My neighbour really isn’t a horrible neighbour, he is very fussy and he is like a male Hyacinth Bucket.
Do you get the picture now?
I sympathise with him, I am a cancer survivor, my H died from Metastatic cancer along with Alzheimer’s 4 years ago.
I just think in this case he was being very unreasonable.
To say he was sick of looking at my bins while eating his breakfast was going too far in my eyes.