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Simple things that men are unable to do!

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Quizzer Fri 29-Sept-23 12:47:00

My DH is fit and active but there are some things he cannot do.

Start a toilet roll without shredding the first ten sheets.
Put any kitchen tool back into the drawer where he found it.
Answer my mobile - he can’t work the buttons which are different to his.

Do other gransnetters’ partners have similar inadequacies??

Opal Sun 01-Oct-23 08:49:54

Foxygloves

^The post was meant to be lighthearted, hoping for some more daft things that our partners, whichever sex, find impossible^
For those who have recently or not-so-recently lost partners or who may be caring for partners with dementia or life altering illnesses it may be hard to read these daft things in a way other than smug. .

Smug? Wow, just wow.
So if I had lost a child, but still chose to read the light hearted threads of those mums who share jokes and funny stories of their children, should I think that they were being "smug"? Of course not.
I wish some posters would just stay off what is obviously a light hearted thread if they have no sense of humour.

nanna8 Sun 01-Oct-23 07:12:02

In the case of all the men I know- multi tasking. They can only do one thing at a time. I am sure females can do better than that because they have to nurture babies and need eyes in the back of their heads! Alos- they can never find anything even when it is in front of their noses!

BigBertha1 Sun 01-Oct-23 07:04:57

In my husband's case it look for his own golf ball even though I bought him multi coloured ones he still thinks wandering about with a bemused expression will reveal the ball to him.

NotSpaghetti Sat 30-Sept-23 23:04:38

Granniesunite flowers

I would really miss that too.

Granniesunite Sat 30-Sept-23 22:54:06

Made me smile reading some of these posts. My hubby and I had the same sense of humour and we could without any of us feeling hurt tease each other about silly things.

He’s got Alzheimer’s now,so no banter between us. I miss that.

rafichagran Sat 30-Sept-23 20:40:43

I think this post was meant to be light hearted. I think it is a shame some posters took it so seriously.

Foxygloves Sat 30-Sept-23 20:25:16

The post was meant to be lighthearted, hoping for some more daft things that our partners, whichever sex, find impossible
For those who have recently or not-so-recently lost partners or who may be caring for partners with dementia or life altering illnesses it may be hard to read these daft things in a way other than smug. .

MayBee70 Sat 30-Sept-23 19:14:04

I remember sitting in my car by a library in a nearby town. Can’t remember why I was there. It was many years ago. But I remember being surprised to see a man pushing a push chair. Soon afterwards it was common place. And seeing my nephews changing their babies nappies.

Claretjan Sat 30-Sept-23 14:48:28

Quite agree Quizzer. It's nice to have a little lightheartedness now and again without someone getting offended about something. I believe I am a feminist too but Mr M and I can both be 'incapable' of doing simple things when it suits and happy to have a lighthearted dig at each other!

Quizzer Sat 30-Sept-23 14:35:45

Foxygloves

With all due respect, this makes me so cross.
My DH absolutely did not have the sort of shortcomings OP itemises, but to extrapolate from her personal experience that men are unable to do these is not light hearted banter but every bit as sexist as those dinosaurs who tell us not to “worry our pretty little heads” or claim women can’t parallel park or insist that only they can put up a shelf straight.
What century are we in for heavens sake?

Thanks for Foxgloves for your comment.

This is not sexist in any way. My DH is capable of everything in the home. It’s just that he has these little blank spots which render him incapable of performing these simple tasks. I am sure he would say the same about me.
The post was meant to be lighthearted, hoping for some more daft things that our partners, whichever sex, find impossible.
I have been a feminist all my life, but I feel that if we can’t have a silly ‘dig’ at the opposite sex occasionally, then life is just a little too serious.

Opal Sat 30-Sept-23 13:43:21

Freya5

I'm equally sure there are as many women who irritate their other halves with such trivial can't dos. ☺

Yes of course there are, my point exactly. So isn't it better to find humour in it, and be able to laugh together about it? I would never "demean" my lovely DH, but he knows to never leave the toilet seat up! smile

Freya5 Sat 30-Sept-23 13:25:08

I'm equally sure there are as many women who irritate their other halves with such trivial can't dos. ☺

Smileless2012 Sat 30-Sept-23 08:58:21

Iam flowers.

Iam64 Sat 30-Sept-23 08:09:16

Mr i always took our bins out. The first time I did it after he died last year, I wept as I struggled to get the full garden re-cycling bin down our steep driveway. It’s still one of those regular events that have me thinking about how much I miss him. Thankfully it makes me smile now, rather than weep, as I remember how we shared the domestic stuff.
Im with foxygloves, anything that’s too much for me or beyond my skill area, I get someone else to do it. My youngest daughter is a dab hand with an electric saw or drill. My sons in law great fun and totally hopeless on the practical front.

Quokka Sat 30-Sept-23 06:54:25

Why don’t we lighten up here?

Foxygloves Sat 30-Sept-23 06:49:42

Some of us have to do both the “pink” and the “blue” (ghastly notion) whatever and if we come up against something which exceeds our capabilities, such as clearing drains, advanced carpentry or brain surgery, we get someone in.

What larks to diss the male sex though!

Now how about some “little woman jokes” to even things up?

grandMattie Sat 30-Sept-23 05:43:08

Mine was one of the most unpractical men I’ve come across. I had my own set of screwdrivers and threatened to emasculate any of my men who didn’t return them! They always came back…
For a very tidy man, DH incredibly cavalier with tools.
As for loo rolls, it was always my turn to change (and start) them!

Ali08 Sat 30-Sept-23 01:23:44

Cleaning up after himself.
Putting the inner rolls from toilet rolls in the bin not even 3 feet away, but he can put them in the baskets on the windowsill above him!!
I hate to diss him as he's such a good bloke, but his hygiene and cleanliness are left wanting these days! 🤣

maddyone Fri 29-Sept-23 23:21:10

Mr M takes the kitchen bin out because it’s rather heavy, but I empty the bedroom bins and do most of the recycling. I clean the bathroom, he does the kitchen. I bake and he cooks. We both do food and household shopping, not usually together though. He does the garden because I don’t want to and he enjoys it. He does a lot of DIY and car stuff, but if I was on my own I’d simply pay someone else to do it.
Recently, because I’ve got a very painful problem with my hand and arm, he has done all the hoovering and ironing. I’d like to get back to doing those things because to be honest, I do them better. But needs must at present.

Callistemon21 Fri 29-Sept-23 20:17:07

Wheniwasyourage

I would rather carry on taking the bins out if I don’t have to cook! Surely we can all do most things if we have to, but some we enjoy and/or are good at, and some we are happy to leave to someone else. Boys’ jobs and girls’ jobs are an irrelevance these days and we all make our own decisions about who does what.

I'd rather cook!

Surely we can all do most things if we have to, but some we enjoy and/or are good at, and some we are happy to leave to someone else

Absolutely. I'll happily leave the bins and the ironing to someone else.

Wheniwasyourage Fri 29-Sept-23 19:59:20

I would rather carry on taking the bins out if I don’t have to cook! Surely we can all do most things if we have to, but some we enjoy and/or are good at, and some we are happy to leave to someone else. Boys’ jobs and girls’ jobs are an irrelevance these days and we all make our own decisions about who does what.

Callistemon21 Fri 29-Sept-23 19:53:10

Typos, sorry!!

Callistemon21 Fri 29-Sept-23 19:52:18

Mr and Mrs May declared that there are boys' jobs and girls' jobs.

Mr May, told presenter Alex Jones (The One show) said: “Well it’s a good question. There’s give and take in every marriage. I get to decide when to take the bins out not if I take the bins out.”

Scottish Labour leader Kezia Dugdale said online: “Seconds in to The One Show, the Prime Minister tells the country there are ‘boy jobs and girl jobs’ at home – I despair.”

Well, Kezia, I am with Theresa - if you are lucky enough to have an OH to take the bins out that is wonderful.
You do it if you want to make a point.

Having had to take the numerous bins out over a period of several weeks, it was one job I was very happily to relinquish.

Dickens Fri 29-Sept-23 19:43:24

Foxygloves

So I will decline lemsip’s invitation to take myself elsewhere.
(But I get the feeling I would not be on my own if I did.)

... no, you wouldn't!

Good on you for risking the wrath of those who feel that we are lacking in the humour department (humour is, of course, subjective anyway).

MayBee70 Fri 29-Sept-23 19:40:11

Visgir1

Just what's under his nose.. Totally unobservant.

In men are from mars it pointed out that men don’t have peripheral vision which is why , when you tell them their socks are in the cupboard they’ll say they’re not there even though the are. And the can’t scan a room of people. I often think that, if the book had come out sooner, I might not have ended up getting divorced as I would have understood my husband better. I had no brothers and went to an all girl school so didn’t understand men at all.