My DCs are both neurodiverse. They don't get on.
My DD called the police on my DS 2 years ago because he grabbed hold of her after she smashed a mug on him. He was arrested, I had to move her out of tge house. Cost a bloody fortune and she has bad mental health so became suicidal. She's moved back home.
2 weeks ago I took DS out for breakfast, DD didn't want to come. We got home. One of our dogs had marked his bedroom and he was furious. The dog was in his shower and my DS was raging at him. My DD and I both ran upstairs, my DD git in the shower and hugged the dog protecting him.
I asked DS to let us take the dog out.
Things escalated and my DS tried to get DD off the dog.
She called the police again. They came, he left of his own volition rather than be arrested again. Police are now saying they will interview him ref assault.
DS has said he wants me to help him get his property career off the ground and we'll share the passive income. I'm considering it though he us clear, he will then leave home and have nothing to do with us. He's 21, she's 22.
I'm keeping quiet, trying to keep the peace. I'm devastated.
Am I being unreasonable to not wade in to sort their relationship? My DS blames me for how DD is, saying I always side with her and give her more, so she thinks she can do what she likes.
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