Looking after DGS for 2 weeks

What's wrong with them taking the 5 year old with them? We went on extended holidays (4 - 5 weeks) through Scandinavia with a child younger than that.

They are being unreasonable your husband needs looking after and you will be tired and stressed. Having children is a big responsibility even more so at this present time for you both.

YANBU
I don't think young people have any idea of what it feels like to be old and unwell. I certainly didn't.

I used to babysit about once a week for a family of 5 DC when I was a teenager. The baby was under a year and the parents decided to go to Italy for 2 weeks leaving me plus another girl in charge.

The night before they were due to leave, the baby contracted meningitis. The holiday was cancelled and baby recovered but was I glad it hadn't happened on my watch!

Seems a bit unreasonable of your son to make a long distance trip while your husband is recuperating Unasmum they would not be able to return quickly should your husband become ill again. Could they not have a shorter break somewhere more local at this point.

You are not being unreasonable. 2 weeks is far too long for a 5 year old to be left, merely for a ‘want’. IMHO