AIBU……just not responding to texts.

I see you have finally made contact with your cousin but it was definitely rude of her not to have responded to your text sooner.
Phones these days enable us to see if our message has been read by the recipient, so if she had time to read your message she could have spent thirty seconds sending a very brief reply.

It would have been thoughtful of her to have sent you another text a bit later saying how lovely your holiday home is and to thank you again for letting them stay. It’s what most folk would do surely?

It will be interesting to see if you are given a small thank you gift when she returns home.

When I text on my android phone there is usually a short response that you can send without bothering to spell it out - ok, sounds good, etc. I often use that as a response.

My sister and brother in law manage a holiday park in crystal palace. I have twice stayed in late season for considerably reduced fees but would not expect to stay free as they have to pay for a cleaner and other amenities.

I got told off this morning by MrA. We split up for an hour at the shops and forgot to confirm meeting up time and place. He sent me a text saying 'see you 12.30 at xxxxx'. I read it as an 'instruction' so didn't reply as there was nothing to discuss. He considered it a question and was waiting for agreement 😄

I’m a stickler for good manners and yes, it’s rude. Always posters coming out with excuses for bad behaviour. Unless something untoward has occurred then she should have replied. A thumbs up would suffice but no response is inexcusable imo.

YANBU

Sago

Update!

My husband called her, everything was fine, she is clearly just rude!

Thanks for letting us know!

You've had a 'mixed' response here - including one which appears to be chiding you for your kind gesture on the basis of you being 'bothered' by the lack of a response to your text!

When did simple courtesy / good manners become unfashionable?

It really does not take more than a couple of minutes - quite literally - to text "arrived safely, thanks". Or a 'thumbs up'. Even those who don't like bothering with text messages can manage that, surely?

Thanks for update. She is just rude! No more free holidays. She doesn't deserve them.

In that case Sago I would agree that, to me, she is rude. I wouldn't be offering her accommodation again.

However, I often think things people do are rude beyond belief when they think is is the norm. People shouting on phones in cafes, people interrupting conversations to take phone calls (except in urgent situations), people who use my drive to park on when visiting their friends, people who allow their children to jump all over seats, people who can't say 'excuse me' and just push you out of the way... the list is endless.

Had she received your text?

That’s the last free holiday she gets then. What breathtaking rudeness and ingratitude.

Update!

My husband called her, everything was fine, she is clearly just rude!

What Cabbie21 said

I wouldn’t be letting her stay there again,either. I think she is a
very rude woman. Next time she asks, make an excuse !

Perhaps she communicates but with her brother , op’s dh, who knows.
Hope she gets in touch later or at the end of the break (with a nice thank you gift),
Otherwise think twice about repeating the kind offer.

I don't know why you expected a reply if she didn’t reply to your last one 2 years ago, she obviously does not use texting to communicate, maybe she will phone at the end of her stay.

If it bothers you this much maybe you should not let people stay for free in your holiday let.

Is your OH upset about this as well, or does he think it is her normal behaviour? If you haven't txt'd since 2021 I wouldn't be surprised that she hasn't replied. I hope she gives you a nice thankyou present for your generosity..

Why did you decide to let her use your holiday home? You don't seem to like her much.

No news is good news, it is said.

Did you end the text open to a response, like "please let me know all is ok when you arrive?" If not there's no response necessary. When I've taken free accommodation l have always given a gift (voucher/bottle etc) after my stay, maybe she'll do that!

Calendargirl

^Surely nobody would expect family to pay any sort of rental?^

A bit of a sweeping statement. There’s family and family.

Where does the family part start and end? Children, siblings, in laws, cousins, nephews and nieces?

The OP also said she had sent details of their personal store cupboard. Sounds pretty generous to me.

I have a relative with a holiday home, family members can book to stay there, paying half the usual price. Seems fair to me. Should say am sure her own children stay ‘gratis’, which is obvious, but really don’t see why others expect to get things for nothing.

If I were offered something similar to the OP’s place, I would certainly ask if I could make some sort of payment. Up to them if they accept or not.

There is full mobile signal and internet.
There is a housekeeping charge of £120 for each changeover and of course gas/electric.
The reason I mentioned it was “gratis” is because I would expect to pay!
The last text I sent her in 2021 never received a response either.
Hey ho!
She won’t be going again.

It is possible her phone has no reception where your place is.
Or, like me, she doesn't use a mobile phone except for emergencies. (Which isn't much use as it runs out of charge all the time)

My brother charged us rent when we stayed at his holiday flat.
It’s generous of you to offer your place free snd quite frankly rude not to respond to your text with a few words of thanks. It only takes a few seconds.

Letting her stay at your holiday let was very kind of you. I believe people should always respond to kindness with a thank you so it was rude and thoughtless of her not to send a simple text.

My sister-in-law is a total luddite. She switches her phone on for a few minutes each day. I think she has a model that still only writes texts all in capitals. She has no idea what a smart phone is, or a tablet. (She has actually asked me what these are. I was cooking from a recipe on my tablet which was propped up on the kitchen worktop - she asked if that was a smart phone or what?)

(Fortunately her boyfriend has his phone with him at all times; he is used to it as he needs it for work.)

Just saying that some people do not recognise it as a form of communication. You say yourself that you last texted her in 2021, so you both don't have continual contact by text. Maybe she'll phone later.

Surely nobody would expect family to pay any sort of rental?

A bit of a sweeping statement. There’s family and family.

Where does the family part start and end? Children, siblings, in laws, cousins, nephews and nieces?

The OP also said she had sent details of their personal store cupboard. Sounds pretty generous to me.

I have a relative with a holiday home, family members can book to stay there, paying half the usual price. Seems fair to me. Should say am sure her own children stay ‘gratis’, which is obvious, but really don’t see why others expect to get things for nothing.

If I were offered something similar to the OP’s place, I would certainly ask if I could make some sort of payment. Up to them if they accept or not.