AIBU……just not responding to texts.

Yes it’s extremely rude.
I know who, of my friends and family, will reply if not immediately, ASAP . Others take longer, sometimes a couple of days.
But in these circumstances, you would think your SIL would be appreciative and find a few seconds to reply.

RosiesMaw

^My Sister in Law is not an easy person but I try and be pleasant and let a lot of stuff go^
She is staying at our holiday let (gratis) with her partner

I think I can see how Hithere came to her conclusion.
Why mention “gratis” when it comes to family?
Surely nobody would expect family to pay any sort of rental?

I think, in some circumstances, it might be reasonable to charge. We don’t know if the OP has maintenance charges etc to pay. Not everyone can afford to be so benevolent.

Sago, don't be upset, you don't know if she had battery failure, anything. I frequently have texts ignored🙄 The reason given, well I meant to, then forgot.

Yes, that does seem odd. I was looking at the time you posted, which was late in the day, so she should have have a few moments to say they arrived safely, and settled in... and a thank you!

Now you will have to see if you hear from them during their stay. Keep us posted!

In this case it was rude not to respond at some time within the next few hours.

I myself am not a "texting sort of person". I dont carry a phone around with me so it may be hours or next day before I notice someone has texted. Unless someone is on route and Im expecting them or need to provide instructions I dont feel obliged to respond immediately if not convenient.

Sago

Hithere

1. She could be driving/busy with items about the trip that cannot be delayed
Or
2. In the first paragraph, you already acknowledge a rocky and distant relationship with unrealistic expectations from her end

Why let her stay for free at your place? Whose place is it?
Is this truly about the text message or what is truly bothering you?

I never said I had a distant and rocky relationship with my SIL, I said she was not easy but I always tried to be pleasant!
You are adding 2 and 2 and making 56!

It’s a property owned my myself and my husband, she has never been and expressed an interest in staying, as it’s low season we said they could have a few days.
As I stated I always try and be pleasant so it was a goodwill gesture.

Yes it is truly about the text message.

LOL (but humourlessly)...

This is why I would never pose a "AIBU" question on here. Someone - or two - will always see a hidden motive - will 'read between the lines' and end up answering your question with one of their own, to get to the truth of the matter.

Go with your 'gut'. You know her, we don't. If it's sort of typical of her to do this sort of thing then 🤷‍♀️.

How long does it take to send a 'thumbs up' response?

Let us know - she of course might simply have forgotten!

My Sister in Law is not an easy person but I try and be pleasant and let a lot of stuff go
She is staying at our holiday let (gratis) with her partner

I think I can see how Hithere came to her conclusion.
Why mention “gratis” when it comes to family?
Surely nobody would expect family to pay any sort of rental?

I often read a text and plan to reply later when I am not busy and then forget, maybe she did that.

Hithere

1. She could be driving/busy with items about the trip that cannot be delayed
Or
2. In the first paragraph, you already acknowledge a rocky and distant relationship with unrealistic expectations from her end

Why let her stay for free at your place? Whose place is it?
Is this truly about the text message or what is truly bothering you?

I never said I had a distant and rocky relationship with my SIL, I said she was not easy but I always tried to be pleasant!
You are adding 2 and 2 and making 56!

It’s a property owned my myself and my husband, she has never been and expressed an interest in staying, as it’s low season we said they could have a few days.
As I stated I always try and be pleasant so it was a goodwill gesture.

Yes it is truly about the text message.

Is she a texting sort of person? I have to say I'm unlikely to respond to a text unless it's obvious a response is needed.

Having said that, I do think she could have sent a quick 'Thanks'. Maybe she will when she's settled in.

1. She could be driving/busy with items about the trip that cannot be delayed
Or
2. In the first paragraph, you already acknowledge a rocky and distant relationship with unrealistic expectations from her end

Why let her stay for free at your place? Whose place is it?
Is this truly about the text message or what is truly bothering you?

Definitely rude Sago. You’ve been kind enough to let them use your lovely holiday let (I remember the photos).
Then kind enough to allow her to share your personal store cupboard. The very least she could do is send a two second thumbs up.
Disappointing for you. Human nature heh.

Let’s assume she was driving, then arriving, unpacking, working things out in an unfamiliar place, maybe popping to the shops…..and is not a great user of texts.
I would allow her time, then text to enquire if all is well. If no reply is forthcoming, she is definitely rude, and would not be getting another free holiday from me.

The last text I sent her was 2021!

I think it’s rude it’s like a snub when you ve lent over backwards to help

Personally, I think it depends on several factors, such as how many texts have been exchanged in quick succession and what the very last text said. Or what the recipient is doing at that moment. Occasionally I feel that enough has already been said and that it is enough for the other person to know that their last text has been read

I must say I like a response to any texts I send. As you say, just a thumbs up or an X to acknowledge it would be good manners.