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Lost wallet.How many honest people are out there?

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Delia22 Mon 05-Feb-24 16:08:31

A few days ago DH and I were out shoping. After he paid for a few items in the last shop we visited we made our way back to the car across a very small car park. The following day DH was looking for his wallet.It was nowhere to be found.After searching the house and the car he made his way back to the last shop we had been in the day before.No luck.No one had handed in a wallet.He then went to the police station.Again no luck. So he had to accept it was gone for good! Apart from the bank card which he had asked the bank to put a stop on there were store loyalty cards and almost £100 cash! Someone had a very lucky find.Although I call it theft by finding. Anyway he,s just had to put it down to a very unfortunate experience!

grannypiper Tue 06-Feb-24 17:51:48

It is ok saying hand it in but when your local Police Station is 20 miles away it isn't that easy.

Aldom Tue 06-Feb-24 18:02:53

MissAdventure

Why don't people take them to the bank or the police?
On the next door app people seem to enjoy saying "message me, and if you can tell me what's in the front pocket, blah blah..."

Just hand it in!

Most banks and police stations are closed now. Nowhere to hand in lost property these days. Lots of lost items are reunited via my local Facebook. smile

NotSpaghetti Tue 06-Feb-24 18:11:03

This is quite a heartwarming thread on balance.
I do like to think the best of people though..
I hope your husband gets his wallet back eventually. 🤞

65KL Tue 06-Feb-24 18:58:19

I handed in an envelope containing some cash in too police , after 6months (i think )noone collected it so got a phone call to say it now was mine ( this is in nz ) , donated it to charity .
Got a phone call one day from my son's phone , someone had found it on a bench ,went through contact list and thought mum would be best number to ring to return it.

Treebee Tue 06-Feb-24 19:35:24

I spotted a handbag by the roadside a few years ago and took it in to our local police station, I did get a call from the owner to thank me.
Another time I was driving out of IKEA and stopped at traffic lights behind a car with a purse on the roof. As it drove off the purse slid off and the car didn’t react to me flashing my lights. So I picked up the purse which contained the owner’s address.
I phoned the library ( it wasn’t a smart phone!) and they told me where this address was. Found my way there and handed it over. The girl seemed amazed.
This just seems normal to me.

Bella23 Tue 06-Feb-24 19:49:46

Once on holiday in France near Toulouse, we tret ourselves to Sunday lunch.
I went to the loo and beside the sinks was a Chanel handbag. I shouted hello but I was the only one in.
I took it to the reception desk and explained where I had found it. They were astonished I had handed it in and gave me the equivalent of £20 out of their till.
I often wonder if the owner went back for it.

Tenko Tue 06-Feb-24 19:53:04

When my son was at uni he found a wallet with credit cards and about £100 in cash . He took it to the nearest police station and left his details but heard nothing .
And a few years ago he was at a festival and when he was leaving, couldn’t find his phone . When he got home he got a call from someone who found his phone . On receipt my son sent some money as a thank you .

Deedaa Tue 06-Feb-24 19:55:08

About 30 years ago I took quite a bit of money out of the bank to buy the uniforms and equipment the children were going to need for the new school year. Somewhere on my way round the shops it disappeared. I reported it at the police station but heard no more. Several months later I had a phone call from a police officer. "Don't you want this wallet then?" Apparently it had been picked up by a local farmer who had dropped it into the station with all its contents intact. Somehow the "Found" report hadn't been linked up with the "Lost" report for some weeks

I once found a mobile phone (when they weren't as ubiquitous as they are now) I tried the home number on it and spoke to the mother of the owner. They came rushing round to collect it and left with Mother saying "Right, lets get home now before your Dad finds out that you lost it!"

Hellogirl1 Tue 06-Feb-24 22:42:05

About 3 years ago, I discovered that all the notes and some other bits and pieces were missing from my purse. This was on a Sunday. My purse was undone, and as I`d returned from town by taxi the previous day, I had the money (£120) then. So my son looked back on our CCTV and saw me walk away from the taxi and my money spilling out onto the ground. A few seconds later, a man walked past, saw the cash on the ground and picked it up, pocketing it. Needless to say, I never saw it again.

Chardy Wed 07-Feb-24 09:09:49

I read this yesterday morning, and later saw a man's wallet on the floor next to a very old lady on her own. (Very old means at least 5 years older than me btw)
I picked it up and showed it to her, leaving it on her table. Ten minutes later an older man (that means younger than me) came over and thanked me profusely. I did think of you Delia

Spuddy Wed 07-Feb-24 09:52:42

I'm so sorry that happened to your hubby, horrible feeling when that happens.

As few years ago when hubby and I were working on the buses he lost his wallet in the middle of the bus station. There was cash, his driving license and other essentials. He was going nuts which was totally understandable. About 20 minutes later he got a call on his mobile from a woman saying she'd found it and would wait there for him to collect it. He was thankfully only a few minutes walk away and handed her £20.00 cash as a thank you!

I had a bad experience when I was 18, I'm 58 now, and walking down the road on my way to work past what used the be the unemployment signing-on office way before it became known as JobcentrePlus. A man was walking in front of me and his walled fell from his back pocket so I grabbed it, approached, handed it it over said I'd just seen it fall from his pocket. He gave me a really evil look, snatched it from my hand and stormed off, not a thank you or even just a smile.

About 3 weeks later I was again walking past the same place/down the same road and that exact same man was again in front of me and again his wallet slipped from his pocket. This time I didn't bother and just left it there!

nannyjoe Wed 07-Feb-24 10:22:07

There are a lot of honest people about .but very few police stations .

MissAdventure Wed 07-Feb-24 10:28:07

I found a purse in the phone box when I was a child.
I cried all the way home in case anyone thought I'd stolen it.i can remember not knowing whether to even touch it, in case the police came.
Nobody claimed it, and I think I was given it back after a while.

Tanjamaltija Wed 07-Feb-24 11:17:04

I found a wallet and called the owner from home (it was raining cats and dogs).He wanted to know where I found it, how much money there was in it, and, the cheek, wanted me to return it, thereby implying that I filched it myself and was angling for a reward. I said I would do no such thing, but I would post it to him, since he said he could not collect. The weird thing is that my home number is unlisted, but the next day, he called me back on it and said, very angrily, that he had not received the wallet, as I had promised. I said I had promised to post it, not that it would arrive within twenty-four hours. I did not give him the pleasure of asking him how he managed to track the number. So, I asked him to confirm that it had arrived, when it did. He did not confirm, so I assume it had arrived, because otherwise he would have called to say it had not. Some people are so entitled and rude.

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 07-Feb-24 11:26:37

Unless you withheld your number when phoning him, he would have seen it when you called.

Lilyflower Wed 07-Feb-24 11:29:04

I read a case where lost and as yet unclaimed money left at the local police station was 'donated' to the police charity after a few months. Might be better then, to advertise on Facebook and Nextdoor and find the actual owner as a first resort.

Eirlys Wed 07-Feb-24 11:45:13

Anything I have found I have handed in to the police. I hate the feeling of loss. I still get upset when I recall visiting the Ladies at a Garden Centre with my lovely MIL. My silver watch came off my wrist as I removed my woollen gloves. A woman entered the otherwise empty area as I was washing my hands and used the cubicle I had just left. She was very quickly out and left the place without washing her hands. I remember my MIL looking somewhat surprised and commenting on this. I realised my watch had been picked up but it was too late to challenge her. The watch cost £70, not a fortune , but was so pretty lots of people fancied it. I was really upset.

icanhandthemback Wed 07-Feb-24 11:51:40

We were always taught to hand things in as my Mum said they would be returned to us if they were unclaimed. She also said that it was a way to ensure that we didn't find things before they were lost!
One of the biggest rows I can remember my Mum and Stepdad having about the kids was when my Dad told my step-sister she could keep a sum of money she found dropped in a street. My Mum was furious and said it could have been someone's pension or food money. That stuck in my mind so I would always hand it in.
What's strange, is that now Mum has dementia, she is always squirrelling stuff away whether it is hers or not!

Bluesmum Wed 07-Feb-24 12:21:35

We are lucky in our village,the majority are decent honest humans. Only last week someone withdrew £100 from the cash machine in our Co-op supermarket, put an elastic band round the bundle and put it in their pocket. Somehow, on the way to their car it must have dropped out of his pocket as he discovered it missing when he got home. Some lovely person picked it up in the car park and handed it in to the girl on the til in the co-op!

TwiceAsNice Wed 07-Feb-24 12:32:11

I lost my purse in Boots as a student I had very little money. I asked at their customer services desk ( not on any branches now) and someone had handed it in. I never found pot who it was but I was so grateful. Everything was still in it. I would give back anything I found but I’ve never found anything

Grammaretto Wed 07-Feb-24 12:36:41

The day before her DG funeral my DD arrived very distraught having accidentally left her expensive camera (she's a professional photographer) in a public toilet in an unsalubrious part of the city. Maybe 15 mins later she noticed, went back but it had gone. The loss was reported to the police but on the answerphone.
The rest of the journey she spent asking on the Facebook pages for that region. Someone even offered to lend her a camera.
The following morning, she had a call from the police. It had been handed in. Whoever had been so honest, left no name so a big thank you from us.

Less happy was the day of my DM funeral, my car was broken into at the crematorium and my rucksack with my purse and passport taken from the boot.
I spent the time I wanted to be with fellow mourners, on the phone cancelling cards and passport and having the car window repaired.
A few days later, I had a call from Tesco 400 miles away in DM town asking if I'd lost a rucksack.
It was found in their clothes bank and handed in. I eventually got it back intact apart from cash and a scarf.

Cemetery and crematorium carparks are notorious for thefts I was told.

Delia22 Wed 07-Feb-24 12:38:26

Chardy

I read this yesterday morning, and later saw a man's wallet on the floor next to a very old lady on her own. (Very old means at least 5 years older than me btw)
I picked it up and showed it to her, leaving it on her table. Ten minutes later an older man (that means younger than me) came over and thanked me profusely. I did think of you Delia

Thank you Chardy! And for the smile your post gave me!😊

Purplepixie Wed 07-Feb-24 12:39:15

I would try and hand it in. Always been an honest person and hope people would be honest with me in the future. If I found money or wallet near to a shop then I would hand it in there but I would want to know if it was picked up within 6 weeks or I want it. No clue where the police station is near to us.

Lucyd Wed 07-Feb-24 12:39:57

I recently was in part of a nearby town which I seldom visit - only there as I had a prescription to collect as had changed pharmacies since previous one managed to give me the wrong message four times!

The new pharmacy is in a very deprived area. There was a community shop selling second hand items for £1 per item. An awful lot of tat but did get a couple of lovely wooden toys and a big bag of toy bricks. When I stopped at a supermarket I discovered my purse was missing. Had about £20 and all my cards in it. Went back to the charity shop and a customer had handed it in. I was delighted and surprised. Unfortunately the finder hadn't left any details so couldn't thank/ reward them.

I would always hand a purse if I found one as I know on the two occasions I dropped mine it was handed in and I was so grateful.

SillyNanny321 Wed 07-Feb-24 12:48:01

I found after moving recently that not everyone is as honest as we would like. I ordered some makeup etc which was delivered to a house across the road. I contacted the company who admitted they had used the wrong house number but on sending the replacement the parcel again went to the house over the road! Told this by the Delivery company. Why do some dishonest people take in parcels & keep when obviously not meant for them. We would have told the Courier to take it back but not our neighbours sadly! Hope the makeup gave them a nice rash 😂