How late can a birthday present be?

Well, I would be really settled to go on a birthday lunch anytime. She obviously has a lot on. We're all different and its obviously niggling you enough to ask others.
Cherish your friendship for what it is and if your birthday lunch is weeks later, so what! At least it's happened.

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I'm still waiting for my promised birthday afternoon tea about four months after my birthday .
I've decided just to leave it .
My friend's birthday is coming up soon and she might fleetingly remember that she forgot mine .
In her defence , she has become incredibly confused , lost her job for being inefficient and I never know if I'm coming or going with her .
I look back and recall that she had Covid badly though she was not hospitalised and that she's changed radically since then .
She's blaming the menopause .
I am really concerned that she has the beginnings of dementia .
Her GP doesn't seem to be taking her concerns seriously .

Maybe I am being unreasonable, reading the responses. However, she only works part time hours the four days she works. We are usually on the phone for an hour each time with me listening to her problems, she doesn’t unburden herself to her other friends as she doesn’t want to come across as a whinge! But, she does make time to meet up with her work colleagues or people from her past on Fridays, so I guess maybe I feel a bit put out that my birthday takes so long to be celebrated.

My OH has just started his new birthday year! He like s to make it stretch out as long as possible!
I would just enjoy the meal and the company, and say thank you!

Wouldn’t bother me. I’d be pleased to have another birthday treat.

Instead of hinting ask her outright if she wants to make a date to have your birthday lunch, if she wont make a date then she either doesn’t want to or cannot afford it.

Although I can understand that she has one day a week to herself to get stuff done, it has to be acknowledged that we only get one birthday a year and it is pretty poor that she is so lax in not making more effort.
I don't buy into the excuse that people are just far too busy to plan a lunch date, purchase a gift or even ensure that a birthday
card arrives in the post BEFORE the actual birthday.

Perhaps it is time to take a step back and don't make the effort for her next time it's her birthday, if she can't be bothered then why should you?

Perhaps your friend is just disorganised

If she only has one day off then I suppose she gets booked up and is quite busy . Retired people often forget how manic life is when you’re working .
I’m happy with lunch anytime, and if it’s a way away , it’s something to look forward to.

It sounds as though Friday is her only free day, when she probably has to fit everything in. I would be happy to be bought lunch any time, it wouldn’t have to be close to my birthday. If you speak a couple of times a week she obviously makes time for you.

I would be happy if it was before the next one!

Birthday treats could easily be months late in my opinion.

I quite enjoy having a birthday treat ages after my actual birthday.

I suppose everyone feels differently about it.

I'd quite like a lunch that didn't have to be on the day, or even near it.