Gluten Free

If you buy in GF foods you will have to buy packets and no-one else will eat them.

Why would nobody else eat a gluten-free product?

I buy Schär crispbreads which are delicious and great for spreads, dips and dhal. They are made from rice flour, maize flour, sugar (less than 0.5 gram per crispbread) and salt. No milk, no eggs, no wheat, no palm oil.

I agree with vegansrock. Sometimes it’s wheat not gluten which is the problem for people with IBS.

There was a very interesting article in NewScientist almost ten years ago now. It’s online for subscribers else it may be available in library archives.

In an albeit small, double-blind placebo controlled trial, those people given gluten scored more highly on a questionnaire assessing levels of depression. These results have to be treated with caution but, in the same way that we an have an obesity crisis, much of which may relate to the sheer amount of carbs, including wheat, in a modern fast=food diet, so might gluten link to the increasing levels of mental illness. That’s going off topic but I think there are good reasons to try to reduce or exclude gluten.

I wonder if Spanish bread is made with a "lower than UK" gluten flour and a "mother dough"?

Callistemon21

halfpint1

Gluten free bread is without gluten and then full of other chemical nasties. It is to be avoided.
I mainly eat vegetarian and can't remember the last time I ate
bread because its not that good for your blood sugar. Going
1 meal without bread is not difficult, people just like to make
it so for attention.

people just like to make it so for attention
Really?
IT CAN BE DANGEROUS!!

I said its not a big deal to go without bread, any bread.

Of course its harmfull to eat if you have a problem but
eliminating it completely is the answer, gluten free products are full of additives and chemicals to replace the gluten.
Try reading the packet and its horrible to eat.

Casdon

I’m gluten free, so if you do decide to buy bread, which I agree is very hit and miss, my current favourite is M&S Made Without Brown Seeded Bread Loaf, which is £2.80 I think. It freezes very well.

Thank you for that. I’m pretty sure I have developed an intolerance, so will certainly give that a try. Most GF bread I’ve tried has been a sad disappointment.

You've told her she can eat most of what you're providing, and suggested she might like to bring a roll. I think that's very considerate of you. In return She berrates you and demands a lift. She sounds very hard work, I'd tell her there's no lift and hope she stays at home.

^1 meal without bread is not difficult, people just like to make
it so for attention^

What a ridiculous comment! 🤬

halfpint1

Gluten free bread is without gluten and then full of other chemical nasties. It is to be avoided.
I mainly eat vegetarian and can't remember the last time I ate
bread because its not that good for your blood sugar. Going
1 meal without bread is not difficult, people just like to make
it so for attention.

people just like to make it so for attention
Really?
IT CAN BE DANGEROUS!!

another thread starter very like one a few months ago.

I would have thought that as she is your sister in law therefore a relative of the mum-to-be she would have responded with 'what would you like me to bring'( fo r everyone, not just herself.)
If you buy in GF foods you will have to buy packets and no-one else will eat them, although from what you say of your SIL she will take them all home with her!
I do not think you are being rude. We did once organise a leaving party for someone who was GF, and we made the entire buffet GF so for once he could eat everything on the table.

From your description of her dietary choices, you obviously think she is being necessarily awkward. Gluten is difficult to digest and can often, for example, set IBS sufferers off with unpleasant symptoms, so many try to avoid it. The variety of wheat grown in Spain is different from the variety used in the UK and she could be perfectly ok with it, which indicates that it may be the wheat itself which is the problem. Maybe be less dismissive of her choices and just buy a loaf of GF bread.

Gluten free bread is without gluten and then full of other chemical nasties. It is to be avoided.
I mainly eat vegetarian and can't remember the last time I ate
bread because its not that good for your blood sugar. Going
1 meal without bread is not difficult, people just like to make
it so for attention.

When avoiding gluten I always told the hosts not to buy GF bread or pastry products as there were some I really disliked and would avoid.

I don’t actually think your request was unreasonable but after her reaction I’d ask which brand she prefers and buy a loaf or pack of bagels and freeze the remainder. Different responses on here are all valid. It always interests me how different we all are.

Thank you for the comments, maybe I am being unreasonable. Just to clarify she is not coeliac, she thinks gluten gives her digestive problems. But she admits if offered really nice bread when out she will accept and in Spain last year she ate all the Spanish bread as she thinks it is made differently and doesn’t bother her tummy!!
I know she keeps GF Bagels in her freezer so I didn’t think I was being unreasonable to ask her to bring one.
On the other hand a friend of my daughter sent me a lovely acceptance note saying she was Vegan but for me not to cater for her as was more than happy to bring her own food.
Oh well off to buy GF bagels. 😀

I am coeliac and so often take gluten free bread, biscuits or cakes with me when I visit. It is often the best way to to do it. I get something I fancy eating and am not left feeling hungry or irritated. Close friends often have a supply always available. One goes to great lengths and often cooks a super GF cake when I go. Others haven't got a clue so I prefer to be prepared.

kittylester

I am gluten intolerant and was upset to be told to bring my own food to a wake. I doubt you would tell a vegetarian or vegan to bring their own food.

Sadly as a vegan (previously vegetarian) I can confirm I have been asked to provide my own food on these types of occasions 😳

I wouldn’t invite someone to a gathering and not cater for them. There is a huge selection of gluten free food in Tesco and all other supermarkets, just buy some and freeze any leftovers for when she visits again. You can ask which brand she prefers.

1summer
I'm with you on baby showers, though! I'd just keep the food simple, don't stress.
Hope it goes well.

Casdon

It sounds like you see her frequently, so why not buy a gluten free loaf, and put it in the freezer afterwards for when she comes again, that will save you wasting anything and keep her happy too.

That makes sense.

kittylester

I am gluten intolerant and was upset to be told to bring my own food to a wake. I doubt you would tell a vegetarian or vegan to bring their own food.

I agree although I know my DD often take gf food or snacks when they go somewhere because some people just do not understand what gluten-free means and to eat ny gluten could mean becoming very ill indeed.
Eg, one has been asked "Can you eat meat?" 🤔

If you're preparing a buffet, is it any more trouble to buy some gf bread or a bagel?

First of all, gluten can cause inflammation for some people that leads to joint paint
Yes, it can
Eating gluten can cause severe illness, anaphylactic shock and possible hospitalisation for someone who is coeliac. I have a friend who is not coeliac but passes out of she eats gluten.

Perhaps you know someone else who could give her a lift as you are busy hosting?

If I was entertaining a group of people I would get a gluten free loaf.

I dont see what is wrong with her asking for a lift if she has an injury. Compared with staying with her after the op providing some bread is not that big a deal.

I have 2 friends who can't have gluten and the one can't have eggs. It's not a choice it's for health reasons. So I have learnt to make cakes and biscuits that they both can have . Plus the friend who can't have gluten or eggs will be staying with me this year so will make sure I buy gluten free bread . When I stayed with her the bread she had was lovely from M&S you couldn't tell it was gluten free it was delicious.
If I invite people to my home I always make sure to give them things I know they like. It's only polite. And when I stay with friends they have things I can and like to eat.

My granddaughter has to have gluten free products, after she was diagnosed, it became apparent when going to children's parties there wasn't always a lot she could eat, so often she takes some of her own products. When she comes to us I always make sure I have a stash of her favourite items in. Her favourite breakfast is Schar's waffles, so fragile though, I have to be careful putting them in the toaster they're inclined to break up.

While I appreciate that for some people, gluten-free is an absolute necessity, the OP does say that her daughter has simply 'decided' to go gluten-free, rather than it being a medical issue. However, under the circumstances, and as others have said, to avoid any arguments, the simplest course of action would just be to buy some gluten-free bread or bagels for her.

Unless this is a serious medical requirement I think it is her responsibility to eat what suits her - not yours. I am vegetarian but I don't expect anyone to remember or provide just for me. However, buffets can be a challenge if things are not labelled.

For the cost, and the likelihood of it becoming an issue, I'd buy a loaf.