Family who don’t bother

Wise words SeaWoozle.

We do not choose our family. For all sorts of reasons, and none at all, some members of a family do not want to keep in contact with other members and act like your brother.

All you can do is accept that he is not interested in keeping contact with you, that he has no interest in what you and your family are up to and just get on with your life.

Send Christmas cards and birthday cards, perhaps with a few words of news and then get on with your life. Enjoy the ccompany of your immediate family and cease struggling fornthe unattainable.

This happens in most families. there is a relation, sometimes, close, like your brother, sometimes a bit more distance, who quite simply casts off, and gets on with their life with no interest in any relations. not estrangement, just simply lack of interest.

Sadl, you must accept this.

Sadly, there's not really anything you can do to 'make it better', but there is a danger of 'making it worse' and feeling even more hurt. As Oopsadaisy1 and pascal30 have said best let it go, sorry

You can't make someone have contact with you. Just because he's family doesn't change that. I know we all feel like we should have a connection or even keep a connection to family but if it's one sided then there's no point in trying to make it happen. I have an uncle who is the same. After years of (seemingly) having no idea where he was, I found him on FB. We've messaged and I get to see photos of his dinners (always look amazing!) but I'm certain that if I were to ask to meet then he'd decline. And I'm OK with that. I know he's alive! I wonder sometimes if just one thing triggers someone's inner "something" and they just think "from now on it's just me". Life gets comfortable and sometimes facing your truths, demons, whatever you want to call them is not the path folk want to take. As for your nephew (you don't say how old he is) maybe he'll get in touch of his own accord. Can you write to him?

Sending big hugs X

you have done your utmost to stay in touch but it seems obvious that he and his family are not interested in maintaining contact with you. you can with, clear conscience, let go now and stop contacting him.. respect his wishes

My advice would be to let it go.

When he wants to get in touch with you he will, you’ve done your best but it doesn’t seem that he is interested.
It’s sad, but not all family members want to be your friends.
MrOops has a brother like that, we haven’t seen him for years, he hasn’t wanted anything to do with his family since he got married, now his wife has died he still isn’t interested, the family all went to the funeral but he didn’t want to speak to them.