I'm far too sensitive

Sorry that was to icanhandthemback

What medication do you take?

I hope the OP has found some useful responses here. I think it might be useful for her to think about what is called 're-framing'. This means a new way to look at it if someone, for instance, seems to you to dismiss what you have said without listening or respect, and you get upset and hurt. You could re-frame this ( possibly) in this way: 'this person is perhaps pre-occupied with their own life problem and hasn't the emotional space to stop and listen and think about me. Maybe I could listen to them more deeply. ' Not sure if that example makes the point clearly enough, but hope that the whole idea of reframing is useful. It is too easy for us to assume that someone else has done something hurtful, when they in fact had no such intention. And if we can go a step further - someone who is hurtful is often themselves hurting....

flappergirl

zakouma66

As a child growing up in a frightening household, I developed antennae that could pick up every nuance. I also believed everything was my fault and it was up to me to put it right.

Your comment applies to me too. I could have written those exact words about my childhood and its affects on my life.

Yes, this was me too. Add in a dose of ADHD where rejection/abandonment is prevalent in your thoughts and it can make life quite miserable when dealing with others especially if they are important to you. I take medication which stops me thinking like this.

Ah, ok.
Phew!
Just certain people.

Some would insist they know how I felt because their brother's ex sister in law's step mother was 103 and had cancer.

MissAdventure

Oh no!
What did I allude to?
I genuinely can't remember.

People keep coming up to you when your girl was ill.

I hope I haven't upset your friend more, Petra,.
Is this now me being too sensitive?

Oh no!
What did I allude to?
I genuinely can't remember.

Daffydilly

biglouis

For a contented life make as little use of social media as possible.

But WhatsApp isn't really social media is it? It's similar to a text between friends or family, often in a group.

I had a chuckle when I read that. Pot calling kettle black 😂

Miss A
I’m watching this with my closest friend. Her mother died some weeks ago. My friend has a position in her church as did her mother.
She went to church soon after her mother’s death but because of what you alluded to hasn’t been since.
Very very sad as her faith is so important to her, and the people she helped there.

A recent email to nhs warned not to use capital letters or exclamation marks!!!'😊

This thread has helped me to realise before helping others you need to put on your own oxygen mask. Mine is now firmly on.

Good for you (in a nice way!).
Now the trick is to keep it on and not offer it to a random person passing by!

NotSpaghetti

^Have you read the thread about music that makes people teary?^

Yes, and although some posts are genuinely moving, and i may have felt the writer's pain in my heart (and even thought about it later that day) they have not had an impact on the rest of my day...
I think that would be pretty extreme.

That's strange, because certain things I read on those threads do stay with me, and I think of them again, for years sometimes.

Do u think ADHD can be a factor. Iv done on line tests it seems off looking into this side as older but seems many adults do. Ala Chaser Anne 😊

Have you read the thread about music that makes people teary?

Yes, and although some posts are genuinely moving, and i may have felt the writer's pain in my heart (and even thought about it later that day) they have not had an impact on the rest of my day...
I think that would be pretty extreme.

Slowing down our in breath is good. Lengthening the out breath. Perhaps sighing or humming the breath out. Feeling ourselves grounded, that the earth is supporting us. Being loving and accepting of ourselves. Feeling that we are enough in ourselves for ourselves.
It is difficult to know what others are thinking or feeling. It is easy to be mistaken. Time passes. Moods pass. If we are calm and act well and kindly to others, it makes us feel more secure in ourselves

Hi. Just joined ! Your message could almost be mine. Empathy especially family with so many diverse thoughts. Reading feedback and will have to comment then maybe. Dont like media but here we are ! Trying.

Ps. So it's finding the right balance i guess , finding yourself
Don't stop being sensitive you are a good person

I once listened to a program on how to email ie a work type situation. It was outlined how hard an email can sound compared the the dame words spoken but having visual clues eg eye contact, smile etc and we were instructed to overdo the polite niceties in our messages. Had a manager who did this to an extreme and his instructions never caused me to feel offended.

Yes it's personalities and I think hormones play a part
If we all strive to find a middle line maybe, these texts really help to see perspective thanks, and if upsetting to take kn board the constructive advice, I'm going that route instead now, We didn't have all these social interactions back in the day and looking back life was easier 😊. PM me anyone if want

Glad of thread thnx
To Curley Whitley I find comments harsh tbh
It's not about 'being adult enough' it's about sensitivity and it's definitely not about poor me mentality!! That's unfair and u true it's the last thing it could be
More about hating disharmony and upset, wondering if you've upset person and how to fix it because you are a Caring person's. I'd rather be a bit too sensitive than too thick skinned or insensitive any day, these people are the salt of the earth that puts balance on the trolls etc. It ain't easy being a sensitive. Respect appreciated please... not our fault genes, nurture, in doctrines may have been dished out heavily.
I hard disharmony I really struggle with others misfortunes as feel for them deeply and can step into their emotions in a tick. I didn't ask to be this type of person. I do t criticise or name called insensitives.

@matybee70 it's interesting as I didn't think the reply to Pisces question was curt.

I have a daughter who is the same . She analyses every conversation whether on social media or in person and then frets about it afterwards. She once rang me to see if her brother was upset with her . When I asked her why she said because he only put 2 kisses at the end of a text message he sent her when he usually put 3 !! I tend to be the opposite in as much as my husband says I am far too understanding when somebody actually does something to upset me but I can always see the other side of the argument. Unfortunately I think it’s just different personalities reactions to different things. I also don’t like confrontation and will avoid it if possible.

I used to avoid sensitive types when my girl was ill.

It's too much to manage others' feelings as well as your own. I wish I could be more understanding.

I get this with my adult children who lead incredibly busy lives, they work and raise children. I was very busy working when they were growing up. I am now retired and miss them so much, the girls live abroad. I had a word with myself. Now that I have time to concentrate on them, they are too busy for me. I am lucky to get a quick text. However, we are thinking of joining them in Australia and they are absolutely overjoyed. Text messages do not tell a fraction of the story.

Skylight18

flappergirl

This might sound like a very trivial, or even bonkers question, but are you by any chance a Pisces Skylight?

No & with respect I'd rather not say.

Ouch. Now that’s an example of a rather curt reply…I’m sure that flappergirl wasn’t meaning to be intrusive….