Am I being too fussy

^ I have a friend who likes shoes removed but her floors are so dirty I don't like putting my socks on them, let alone bare feet!^

That made me laugh 😅

I don't ask anyone to remove their shoes, but do like them to be wiped on the mat outside. I've never been asked to take my shoes off by anyone. If I go away to stay with people I take my slippers but not to visit for an hour. To be honest I don't think MrA would go back to somewhere he had to keep taking his boots off - he finds it very difficult to bend these days as his hip has deteriorated so much and taking his shoes and boots off takes him a while.

It's a relatively recent habit to remove shoes when entering someone elses home, I think all down to the light coloured furnishings when they became fasionable. I never ask a tradesperson to take their footwear off, but most do have protectors. I don't even ask visitors or friends either but most do almost automatically. I have carpeting in the hall.

As I don’t wear socks or tights most of the year I definitely wouldn’t want to have to take my shoes off!

I have friends who have a basket of slippers for guests in all different sizes. I don't like being without either shoes or slippers as I'm diabetic and have been told never to go barefoot, so it's a problem in the summer if I'm in sandals, less so in winter as I have socks on but still quite uncomfortable. Thankfully I'm rarely asked to remove my shoes but perhaps I should get some shoe protectors just in case.
We once went to view a house and were told to remove our shoes on arrival. They had thick shag pile carpet everywhere so it wasn't to uncomfortable except in the kitchen and utility rooms but I'd never been asked to remove my shoes before. We didn't buy that house though.

I'm with you. Most of our friends and neighbours take their shoes off entering someone's home as we do

I've got a doormat outside and inside each door. I've never needed to ask anyone to remove shoes or boots. It's really an insult.

I’d offer the offending article shoe protectors when opening the door for that visitor.

I prefer people to remove their shoes and will happily supply them with shoe covers if they prefer not to. The colour of the carpet is irrelevant because if something is trodden into the carpet it doesn't magically disappear because I can't see it.
The reason workman don't take their boots off is because if they injured a foot while repairing your loo or whatever it would invalidate their insurance.

Agreed, I lived in Sweden for a few years and people always removed outdoor shoes, even in places offices and schools.

Yes good idea. Those white waffle light slippers!!! And wear slippers yourself obvs. It's quite rude really not to respect, a guy was here doing jobs I didn't mind downstairs as I've laminate but his big boots were about to head upstairs so I asked politely to use the cover things I had there. He looked shocked and laughed. He said ' I clean carpets too ' 😂😂 cheek. They were 6 months old

You can't help how you tick and it would go against grain to alter nothing wrong with keeping carpets clean! Quite expensive to have cleaned. Best ask with humour I'd say just keep it light or have those shoe protectors at hand even offer to put over if they struggle. It's like anything it's how you say it and smile 😊 friend has card up in her porch this is a clean carpet zone 😊

We're going round to friends' this evening & will be removing our shoes in the hall as that's what they like. We always take our slippers as they themselves will be wearing theirs. We don't have that rule unless people are joining us in the front room as it has a cream carpet. Your house, your rules - don't feel awkward, just keep telling him & maybe provide some slippers or flip flops. My parents used to have a wall -hanging in the porch with assorted sizes of light slippers in it.

Having guests sitting in sweaty socks or tights makes me shudder, in fact it disturbs me somehow! A wipe on the doormat is enough for me. If anything gets trailed in then it can be dealt with easily enough. I've had kids and dogs in my carpeted house for over 40 years and I'm still alive to tell the tale!

Does make sense to me to remove outer shoes when entering people's houses. Only because there was some research I remember reading about, which said that there were more bacteria on the bottom of shoes than on toilet seats, and that bacteria on the bottom of shoes live longer than on other surfaces and that up to 90% of the bacteria is transferred to a floor in a house!
My DH is the fussier of the two of us when it comes to removing shoes and I would never ask someone to if they felt uncomfortable

If this was important to me, I'd check Amazon for a box of shoe covers and have a seat available as well as a waste basket.

You’re not being too fussy, your house, your rules.

I have laminate flooring. the only carpet I have is a runner in the hall.
I never ask for people to take their shoes off but the majority do anyway. I always take my slippers with me when I visit other people.
I can remember when mine were young they would occasionally come in with dog poo on the soles of their shoes. There's nothing worse than having to clean it off believe me.

I’m with Sharina. Other people’s feet! Yucky 🤮

I would take my shoes off voluntarily if I had been walking somewhere muddy.

I have a friend who insists that you remove your shoes and has male and female slippers either side of the porch in numerous sizes for you to change into. I would prefer not to use them If I know I'm visiting
I take my own. Her house, her rules?

You need to put this up.
I automatically take my shoes off when going to someones home.
But I'm usually wearing sandals that are easy to slip on and off.

🫤 erm - doormats outside and inside the entrance.
And try to look where one walks….
Worse case scenario good old wet wipes and a quality air freshener/disinfectant spray.

I'm with you Granny Ivy. I like to know where possible that nothing nasty has come into my clean home. Most friends take their shoes off automatically, as I do at their home unless specifically told not to bother. Tradespeople often have shoe coverings and if not, I have no problem asking them politely if they would do this. Never had a refusal. I think it's even more important if those tradespeople - or anyone else - are going into bedrooms or bathrooms. We all do as we see fit, and in our home, I think we should be comfortable to have things the way we like them

You are being sensible and hygienic as around our area there seems to be a lot of dog and fox poo waiting to be trod on all over . 🐶 🦊 💩

Depends if you want a home or a house mine a well used well loved home, it’s just funny as all the houses I ve been in over the years no one has ever suggested a shoes off policy Perhaps it’s more prevalent now that people buy more expensive furniture and look at house magazines and such
I was brought up in a council prefab with my parents and a lot of time at my Nans boarding house, no visitors were ever asked to take their shoes off. It was accepted that carpets and rugs needed annual cleaning I remember Nan putting the rugs on the washing line and beating them with a wrought iron paddle thingy
I d love all wooden floors but with no central heating it’s much too cold
montypops I think I must have got my hall / stairs carpet from the same shop as you it’s still going strong

Never ask people to remove shoes but family always does. Hate to do it myself because of ugly bunions which I find embarrassing.