Am I being too fussy

Shoes off in my house
My house my rules !

Nope not too fussy at all. We have carpet in two of three rooms downstairs and have had mud trodden through into them. Now I ask if they could remove their shoes(or they do it anyway) otherwise we sit in the room with wooden floors.
We are shortly to have a not cheap hall carpet fitted. I don’t want mud walked through it! (Even if they do wipe their feet).
Interestingly I worked from home for years, admitting clients into the house and 90% offered to remove their shoes without me even mentioning it!

It's your home and your rules. You don't want dirty/muddy shoes mucking up your lovely carpets and floors.

Hubby and I always ask at the door if our hosts want us to take our shoes off or not, and we're more than happy to do it if they want.

It's really up to each of us, but if you think about how much dirt/pathogens we bring in off our shoes from outside, then it makes sense to take shoes off in our homes. Who wants that on their carpets? We take our own shoes off, wear slippers indoors and I provide slippers for guests plus we clean our carpets fairly regularly.

I tend to walk barefoot so putting my shoes on would be cleaner Yes even in the winter although I don't go into town barefoot in the winter

I don’t blame you
Many people prefer this
I don’t expect it I would prefer people to protect their feet as I have hard floors and four dogs
But I would not want anyone going upstairs with their shoes on

I wear clogs when I go to people's houses, so I can remove them without problems. Also, to this guy who you have to remind 'each time' please tell him, the next time you do, that by now you ought to know this...... and his reaction will tell you whether he is doing it on purpose... which I think he is.

Fun lol not gun

I always take my shoes off when visiting.
I don't think it's wrong to ask people to do this and the friend that makes you ask is a game player he probably thinks it gun

Grammaretto

Can you provide slippers? Or shoe protectors
Some people find it hard to physically remove lace up shoes or boots.
An alternative would to only invite him into a part of the house without carpets.

This- l think it’s not only polite, but prevents all sorts of germs , particularly if you have young children, Grandchildren. I would provide shoe covers x

I think if your concerned, offer shoe protectors, some people can’t bend to take off shoes. My friends remove theirs as I do when visiting but I personally wouldn't ask, would if it were a builder say with mucky boots or something. Only a few minutes to vac but if you’ve a door mat the shoes should be clean enough.

Most tradespeople carry the blue shoe covers and I like this as it’s respectful as many of them wear big heavy ‘dirty’ boots… not a class thing at all .. am very working class😊

I think that is what doormats were invented for so people could wipe their feet before entering your home. I never ask anyone to remove their shoes but I have found that the workman I have dealt with are considerate especially when they are outside doing digging work. My Virgin Media engineers always cover their shoes with plastic covers.

Maybe as I have always lived in the countryside rather than a town that makes a difference. I think also as small children are often in my home crawling and playing on the floor and will pick up bits to put in their mouths it seemed sensible for guests to remove outdoor shoes so as not to tread things in. DH and I always wear slippers and regular visitors who know us always bring their slippers. I just seen to have got more fussy with the occasional caller who treads in small stones, mud etc with all this rain we have had🤷‍♀️

I don't ask anyone to remove their shoes but I do appreciate it when they do.
When you consider all the muck our shoes pick up, taking off your shoes at the door is the right thing to do.

I think it’s a class thing ….I m working class🤣
Have never ever walked with slippers I don’t have any family (ex family in law huge amount of them) or friends who would walk with slippers so we are just in a different class I suppose
I have a doormat for people to wipe their feet on if they need to

I actually hate carpet it’s out dated in my opinion but my DH insists on having it. Our family including GC automatically take off their shoes as we do in their homes. Friends when visiting are polite and ask if they should take their shoes off.

We did have a relative who would walk in with muddy boots on every time he visited. It annoyed me so much I bought slippers for him. The only trades person who enters our house is our son he is professional and knows what to do so no problem.

As a family we always take our shoes off indoors. The smallest grandchildren now sit down and remove their shoes here, just like they do in their own homes.
When I visit friends I always take slippers with me, and they do the same here.

I agree though that it’s difficult for tradesmen to remove shoes so we keep a stock of the shoe protectors for them.

We have parquet flooring throughout the whole of the ground floor with rugs in most living rooms.

Always shoes off in our house. Having lived in places where it’s usual I got used to it. But we also like to sit on the floor a lot. I do offer washed slippers to visitors.

Here in Canada we always remove shoes before entering houses.

Always offer to remove my shoes when visiting. Family always remove theirs. Pleased that almost all workmen either wear covers or offer to remove shoes.

I tell visitors not to remove their shoes as the dogs don't remove their's. Hardwoods in house and carpet in bedrooms and no shoes in bedrooms. I always wear slip-on shoes when visiting others so that it is not difficult to remove my shoes. It's just automatic and polite (I think) to remove shoes upon entering.

GrannyIvy has said she doesn't have pets. Do none of the shoes-off families have pets? Dogs or cats that don't wear shoes that can be taken off?
What happens in summer when guests are not wearing socks or tights, just sandals, are they expected to go barefoot?

No, I never ask anyone to remove their footwear and I’ve never been asked to. All the tradesmen we use lay rhino carpet protector if they’re in a carpeted area.

Yes we always have taken our shoes off at friends and family they do the same it’s something we’ve always done. I’ve never had a tradesman in my home that didn’t offer to take shoes off either, but if they didn’t I would ask them. If family are coming to stay a while they bring their slippers.