Am I being too fussy

Gwyllt

I do just wonder if it’s the difference between town and country
Having lived on a small holding since the kids were tiny and never knowing what might be stepped in everyone took their shoes off
The boys would tell there friends and the heap of shoes suggested to others to do like wise
Similarly we now live in a farm house in north west Wales and the shoe rack in the boot room is usually honoured Wellies always are
Never a word is spoken

Think you are right, we have always had horses, boys had messy hobbies, lobby was a depository for wellies, shoes and outdoor clothing.

Crocs are brilliant but a bit cumbersome …you couldn’t just pop them into your carefully chosen handbag …the one that matches your shoes😼

I loathe slippers and if wearing a skirt would feel odd padding about in other people’s houses in tights. Trousers and socks no problem but think it rather rude to ask.

I take a pair of clean Crocs with me when I visit people.

I do just wonder if it’s the difference between town and country
Having lived on a small holding since the kids were tiny and never knowing what might be stepped in everyone took their shoes off
The boys would tell there friends and the heap of shoes suggested to others to do like wise
Similarly we now live in a farm house in north west Wales and the shoe rack in the boot room is usually honoured Wellies always are
Never a word is spoken

flappergirl, same here.

I have never been asked nor have I asked anyone to remove shoes.

I accept my floors are for walking on so do not have cream carpets.

Our entire family are shoes off, as are the majority of our friends.

Depending on the trade, some tradesmen do need to wear shoes or boots to protect their feet, and should not be asked to remove them, but it is polite of them to bring shoe protectors.

My late husband was told by his foot specialist always to wear shoes. He would need to sit down to change into slippers and to use a shoe horn to put shoes back on. It would be a bad-mannered host who asked him to do that.

My feet easily get cold, so I take slippers if I am going somewhere where I know I will be expected to remove my shoes. My family are used to that.

I've never been asked to remove my shoes in anyone's home in the UK and it's never occurred to me to ask visitors to do so. Obviously if I had mud or something unpleasant on my shoes I wouldn't dream of traipsing through their home.

I do put my slippers on once I've settled for the evening but that's for warmth and comfort.

If it's a place I visit often I learn their rules.
Scandinavian friends insist on shoes off.
2/4 DC insist but I automatically take my shoes off for upstairs carpets.

More and more the shoes off rule is usual but I love it when I call on my older friends who are much more relaxed and perhaps don't want a room full of smelly feet.

We've wood floors.however I don't ask, trades (few we have) slip on protectors and family all take off outdoor shoes and put on their slippers.

I don't ask, it happens. Seems the right thing to me.

I prefer to keep my shoes on coz my feet are always cold but I guess if u are in someone else’s home u go by their rules

I wouldn’t dream of asking anyone to remove their shoes. Carpets are for walking on and any dirt can be easily removed. Tradesmen always go to take off their shoes but I always say don’t worry.

I don't ask people to remove their shoes but most do before coming in to the sitting room. I always take shoes off when I visit others and if staying for more than an hour or so at my sons I take slippers.

In Sweden and Germany it would be regarded aa bad manners not to take off outer shoes. We always do it, and most here take off theirs without even thinking about it. When my husband was having a heart bypass, shoe protectors were worn in corridors and wards. Makes sense to me!

I’m grateful most of my friends and family accept me and my funny ways and still want to visit me….

I'm on the fence here.

It is your home, and you'll be the one cleaning it up if someone walks something horrible into your carpet.

On the other hand...

I struggle to wear out door shoes in other peoples houses always take my outdoor shoes off and take slippers. So worried about making their home dirty!

Personally I think it is rather rude to ask anyone to remove their shoes before entering my house. Most people would wipe their shoes on the door mat before coming in, and most workmen take their shoes off without any prompting.

I do feel guilty that’s why I posted. With me it is my OCD kicking in on keeping everything clean and hygienic I think. Thank you for all your comments. I have wood flooring through hallway and kitchen dinner so only lounge carpet I protect. I am neurotic about washing floors if any outdoor footwear goes on it though. I don’t have a dog or any pets. I know I’m a nightmare 🙈

I take indoor shoes or slippers when I visit DS#1 or DS#3. Both have light coloured carpets but I hate having cold feet.

Perhaps we need to move to Germany. At a lecture I recently attended we were told that people take their slippers with them if they go visiting friends.
You can visit me and keep your shoes on.

Yes, you are.
Workmen generally bring shoe protectors but I would find it insulting to ask any visitor to remove their shoes.

I cannot physically remove my shoes without sitting down and for comfort, I would have to bring my slippers so I will not do it.

Many years ago I was helping a friend buy a house. One house we went to had hard floors which were dusty so I refused to do it saying I could not walk without my shoes on.